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  44. <p>Are you missing your narcissistic ex? Do this if you are Missing your Narcissist Ex and save yourself from all the trauma. So what exactly should you do to stop yourself from getting back with your toxic? Should you get back with your narcissistic ex? Let us find out further in the article.</p>
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  48. <p>Just remember all the toxicity and think twice before approaching your toxic ex. It is very obvious that everyone has some lingering feelings for their exes, and also they wish to get back with their exes. But is it worth getting back with your narcissistic ex? </p>
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  55. <p>Finally, with lots of courage, you have enabled yourself to forget about your ex, but their one phone call or text or their glimpse, and it all starts collapsing. You can no longer hold your shield and thus your weakened self-pride comes crashing down. You pick up your phone to call them or text them. But WAIT! Withhold yourself and think once again. Should you let your healing go in vain and get caught up once again in that toxic cycle of abuse? It is not uncommon to miss your exes after breaking up, especially narcissists as they have charming after-effects even after the breakup. </p>
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  58.  
  59. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Why am I still thinking about my narcissistic ex even after breaking up?</h2>
  60.  
  61.  
  62.  
  63. <p>It is not uncommon to continue thinking about an ex-partner even after a breakup, particularly if they were a narcissist. Narcissistic partners can leave a lasting impact on their victims, and the trauma associated with an abusive relationship can take time to <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/signs-you-are-healing-from-narcissistic-abuse/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/signs-you-are-healing-from-narcissistic-abuse/">heal</a>. Additionally, <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/does-a-narcissist-truly-regret-losing-you/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/does-a-narcissist-truly-regret-losing-you/">breaking up</a> with a narcissist always feels like there is a lack of closure, as the breakup seems abrupt. Thus you may take a lot of time processing the breakup and trying to figure out as to what exactly went wrong!</p>
  64.  
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  66.  
  67. <p>The lack of closure and abrupt breakup may also involve rekindling and revisiting past memories of the good moments spent with the narcissist and thinking about how the relationship actually affected you. Thus this is the answer to the question, &#8220;Why am I still thinking about my narcissistic ex even after breaking up?&#8221;. </p>
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  74. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Why do I miss my Narcissistic Ex?</h2>
  75.  
  76.  
  77.  
  78. <p>It is natural to miss your ex-partner after breaking up with them, even though they are a toxic narcissist. &#8220;So why do we miss our toxic exes?&#8221; The reasons are mentioned here below, </p>
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  82. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  83. <li><strong>The Co-dependency</strong> &#8211; Narcissists often seek out partners who are willing to cater to their needs and fulfill their desires. This can create a <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/am-i-a-narcissist-or-a-codependent-reality-check/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/am-i-a-narcissist-or-a-codependent-reality-check/">co-dependent</a> bond or a relationship between the partners where both of them rely on each other majorly for validation and seeking support. </li>
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  88. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  89. <li><strong>Trauma Bonding</strong> &#8211; Narcissists often use <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" target="_blank" rel="noopener">manipulation</a> and <a href="https://psychcentral.com/lib/emotional-abuse-signs" data-type="URL" data-id="https://psychcentral.com/lib/emotional-abuse-signs" target="_blank" rel="noopener">emotional abuse</a> to create a bond with their partners. This can create a strong attachment pattern and further develop that pattern into attachment issues, making it difficult for both partners to move on unless they have found someone new already. </li>
  90. </ul>
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  95. <li><strong>Fear of being Alone</strong> &#8211; Being in a relationship with a narcissist can create a sense of security and companionship. Fear of loneliness can make it really difficult to let go of the relationship even if it is toxic. </li>
  96. </ul>
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  101. <li><strong>The Idealization phase</strong> &#8211; Narcissists often start relationships by idealizing their partners and showering them with attention and praise. This can create a sense of being valued and desired that can be hard to let go of. </li>
  102. </ul>
  103.  
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  105.  
  106. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Would a narcissist even miss you after the breakup as you do?</h2>
  107.  
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  109.  
  110. <p><strong><em>A narcissist would majorly not miss you as they already would have moved on from you to their new partner, but the only reason they might miss you is how you made them feel and how you were different from their current partner. They would actually not miss you but would miss how you made them feel and nothing more. </em></strong></p>
  111.  
  112.  
  113.  
  114. <p><em>They might miss you for the affection you had for them as everyone especially narcissists craves attention and affection. They might miss your validation for their fake, unreal, and dual personality, they might miss what you did for them, how you made them feel, and the physical intimacy. Narcissists would not actually miss you for who you are or your feelings, but they might miss you for how you made them feel special and entitled and made them your priority.</em></p>
  115.  
  116.  
  117.  
  118. <p>Narcissists can truly regret losing you and also <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/will-a-narcissist-miss-you-once-you-are-gone/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/will-a-narcissist-miss-you-once-you-are-gone/">miss you</a> indeed, but in reality, most of the time it is that they would actually miss and also regret how you made them feel with your presence in their life. <strong>A narcissist is capable of feeling all emotions, it is just that they do not acknowledge them and express them due to their vulnerabilities. </strong></p>
  119.  
  120.  
  121.  
  122. <p><strong>A narcissist may not regret losing you(their partner/lover/mate) or would not miss you as much as you miss them </strong>because they believe that they are always right, superior, and entitled to everything they want. They tend to have an excessive sense of self-importance and lack empathy for others. Therefore having regrets or feeling emotional damage after losing their partner may be perceived as a threat to their ego and reputation, and thus they would never do or feel anything that can damage their shiny high-end image in society. </p>
  123.  
  124.  
  125.  
  126. <p><strong>Narcissists would choose to just shun their emotions and become emotionless after breaking up </strong>and hop onto their next victim as soon as possible after their breakup, rather than accepting the feeling that they regret or are upset by losing you which may be significant. Additionally, they may blame others or blame some external factors for their loss rather than taking responsibility for their actions. </p>
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  130. <figure class="wp-block-pullquote has-ast-global-color-3-color has-text-color"><blockquote><p><strong>Why do I miss my Narcissistic Ex even after breaking up?</strong></p><cite>It is not uncommon to continue thinking about an ex-partner even after a breakup, particularly if they were a narcissist. Narcissistic partners can leave a lasting impact on their victims. Thus you may take a lot of time processing the breakup and trying to figure out as to what exactly went wrong!</cite></blockquote></figure>
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  137. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">How to let go of the narcissist from your life and thoughts?</h2>
  138.  
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  140.  
  141. <p>It is not uncommon to continue thinking about an ex-partner even after a breakup, particularly if they were a narcissist. Narcissistic partners can leave a lasting impact on their victims, but there are some ways in which you can let go of the narcissist, which are,</p>
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  145. <p><strong>Set clear boundaries and do not break them for any reason</strong>. You decide for yourself what behavior is acceptable and what is not and thus check mark all the boxes for the traits of people who do not fit in your type. Setting boundaries would allow you to not break them thus preventing you from going back to the narcissist and also thinking about them. </p>
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  148.  
  149. <p><strong>Replace all negative thoughts with something positive by associating</strong> yourself with positive people. Keep your thoughts on track by involving yourself with something like self-care podcasts, motivational videos, music, therapies, or anything that might help you to be positive. </p>
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  152.  
  153. <p><strong>Avoid dwelling on any negative emotions and replace them with positive affirmations and only focus</strong> on the bright side and all the good in your life. </p>
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  157. <p><strong>Focus on self-care</strong>. Practice self-compassion and prioritizing your well-being. Engage in activities that bring you relaxation, peace, and most importantly happiness. </p>
  158.  
  159.  
  160.  
  161. <p><strong>Recognize the reality of the situation</strong>. Accept that the narcissist is very unlikely to change, and let go of any hope that you might have regarding the narcissist. This way you might not have any regrets too and would easily be able to move on. </p>
  162.  
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  164.  
  165. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">How to completely forget your narcissistic ex? &#8211; Do this if you are missing your Narcissist Ex</h2>
  166.  
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  168.  
  169. <p>After a narcissistic <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-to-safely-end-your-relationship-with-a-narcissist-or-partner/">relationship ends</a>, it can be challenging to move forward and completely forget your ex. Narcissist exes are able to ruin your mental health and fill your brain with negative thoughts as they do just manipulate and abuse their victims. They make you feel drained and confused. However, it is possible to heal from the trauma and move on. Here are some ways to completely forget your narcissistic ex,</p>
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  173. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">1. Cut off all contact with the narcissist </h3>
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  175.  
  176.  
  177. <p>If you really want to forget your narcissistic ex, then the first step is to cut off all contact and follow the no-contact rule. Going &#8220;No Contact&#8221; means going completely off contact or an off-reach approach with them be it by deleting or <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-does-a-narcissist-react-to-being-blocked/">blocking them</a> on social media, blocking their phone number, or not visiting places that you expect them to be.</p>
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  183.  
  184. <p>To get rid of the narcissist from your life and thoughts without much of a hassle, the no-contact phase must stay implemented for a bare minimum of 60 days or more than that. This period is enough for both; for you to move on and for them to stop chasing and <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/deceptive-narcissist-hoovering-examples/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/deceptive-narcissist-hoovering-examples/">hoovering</a> around you. This ensures your well-being both emotionally and mentally. Also, make sure to cut ties with your mutual friends, or at least try to stay away from social gatherings as the narcissist might try to find their way into your life through mutual friends, acquaintances, or even family members. </p>
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  188. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">2. Focus on self-care</h3>
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  191.  
  192. <p>Self-care is essential, especially after being a part of a toxic relationship with the narcissist. Self-care includes focusing on activities that make you feel good, like meditating, doing yoga, reading, exercising, painting, learning a musical instrument, or anything that makes you happy. This also includes spending as much time as possible with yourself. Taking care of yourself mentally and physically will help you feel better. </p>
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  196. <h3 class="wp-block-heading"> 3. Seeking Therapy or counseling</h3>
  197.  
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  199.  
  200. <p>Narcissistic relationships can leave deep emotional wounds that require professional help to heal. A therapist or counselor can help you understand your emotions better and develop healthy coping mechanisms. </p>
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  205. <h4 class="wp-block-heading">Why is Emotional and Mental Healing important?</h4>
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  209. <p>Emotional, Mental, and physical Healing becomes very important when you depart ways with a narcissist. A <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-family-relationships/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-family-relationships/">narcissistic relationship</a> tends to deteriorate your mental, physical, and emotional health along with decreasing your confidence, willpower to live, and the simple joys of life. </p>
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  214. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">4. Remember your worth</h3>
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  218. <p>Being with narcissists might have crashed your self-worth and self-pride as they constantly make you feel worthless by constantly reminding you that you are worthless. But who are they to decide your worthiness? <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-reject-or-ignore-a-narcissist/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-reject-or-ignore-a-narcissist/">Ignore</a> them and their notions about you, just know your worth. Also, remember that you are good as you are and nobody can decide your worthiness except you. You need to be treated with equal respect, love, and care. So dust off any doubts and focus on your strengths and accomplishments and also take note that you are amazing as you are and nobody can take away that from you. You are You!</p>
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  225. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">5. Surround yourself with positive people</h3>
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  229. <p>Try to befriend people who make you feel good about yourself. Be in touch with people who are positive and uplifting as those people can really help you <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/signs-you-are-healing-from-narcissistic-abuse/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/signs-you-are-healing-from-narcissistic-abuse/">heal</a> from the trauma that the narcissist has caused. Such people are positive, make you feel good, and also understand your worth. </p>
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  233. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">6. Forgive yourself</h3>
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  236.  
  237. <p>Try forgetting yourself as narcissists are skilled at blaming their partners for their wrongdoings, insecurities, and complexes. Remember that it is not just you because of whom the relationship has ended. Forgive yourself for any mistakes that you have made and move on from the past.&nbsp;</p>
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  240.  
  241. <p><strong><em>Try to give yourself time to heal yourself after all the manipulation, trauma, and abuse. Here below are some signs that you are healing from a breakup,</em></strong></p>
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  246. <li>You look happy and healthy</li>
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  250. <li>You can reminiscence your good old habits </li>
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  253.  
  254. <li>You start enjoying your own company and your attitude toward life changes</li>
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  258. <li>Your life starts seeming carefree</li>
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  262. <li>You become more confident with life</li>
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  266. <li>Physical and mental health issues tend to disappear</li>
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  270. <li>You start feeling all the emotions</li>
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  281. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Inference</h2>
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  284.  
  285. <p>Breaking free from a narcissistic ex can be difficult, but is not impossible. It can be a little difficult but you can achieve everything with a little discipline and strong willpower. Try with the little steps mentioned above in the article and look at yourself achieving the difficult part of breaking free from the narcissistic relationship. </p>
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  289. <p><strong>It is important to remember that missing an ex, even someone narcissistic is completely normal so do not blame or criticize for feeling such emotions.</strong> Take your time to heal from this situation and move on gradually. Seek support from family, friends, therapists, or anyone that you feel comfortable with. </p>
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  298. <title>How To Break A Narcissist&#8217;s Heart? (Working Methods)</title>
  299. <link>https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-to-break-a-narcissists-heart-working-methods/</link>
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  302. <dc:creator><![CDATA[Ella Carrillo]]></dc:creator>
  303. <pubDate>Sun, 22 Dec 2024 00:28:50 +0000</pubDate>
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  311. <p>How to Break a Narcissist&#8217;s Heart? When you have dated a narcissist, and had your heart broken in one or the other way, you feel like doing the same with them. When you have been discarded by the narcissist, or when you had to face incidents that had your heart broken due to the narcissist, then you also feel like doing the same with them. You are probably left with emotions like anger, betrayal, or frustration which is pretty much normal in such a scenario. </p>
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  313.  
  314.  
  315. <p>But then the question arises, &#8220;Should you break a narcissist&#8217;s heart?&#8221; or &#8220;Is it advisable to do so?&#8221;. Let us find the answer to the question, &#8220;How to Break a Narcissist&#8217;s Heart?&#8221; further in this article. This article will help you to go ahead and move on from the narcissist&#8217;s nasty break up, also help to seek revenge and lead an amazing guilt-free life forward. </p>
  316.  
  317.  
  318.  
  319. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">How to Break a Narcissist&#8217;s Heart?</h2>
  320.  
  321.  
  322.  
  323. <p>In such cases when you are heartbroken, seeking revenge seems to be the best option. If you really are strong-willed and can move on with an open heart without seeking revenge then it is a better option as it is always the best to approach situations with empathy and understanding. However, in cases where you are extremely hurt and cannot move forward in life without getting back at the narcissist who has hurt you up to greater extents than seeking revenge by breaking the narcissist&#8217;s heart seems to be an appropriate option at least to seek closure, get <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/signs-you-are-healing-from-narcissistic-abuse/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/signs-you-are-healing-from-narcissistic-abuse/">healed</a> from the narcissistic trauma and also move on with life happily. </p>
  324.  
  325.  
  326.  
  327. <p>Here below we will be discussing some working ways or methods to handle a narcissist, seek revenge by breaking a narcissist&#8217;s heart and also move on in life easily. </p>
  328.  
  329.  
  330.  
  331. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">1. Focus on the healing process from all the narcissistic abuse that you have faced</h3>
  332.  
  333.  
  334.  
  335. <p>Once you heal from all the trauma, you are no longer accessible to the narcissist ever again. Emotional, Mental, and physical Healing becomes very important when you depart ways with a narcissist. </p>
  336.  
  337.  
  338.  
  339. <p>A <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-family-relationships/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-family-relationships/">narcissistic relationship</a> tends to deteriorate your mental, physical, and emotional health along with decreasing your confidence, willpower to live, and the simple joys of life. And simple self-healing is enough to make the narcissist restless and also enough to break a narcissist&#8217;s heart as they would not be able to see how strong you have become with the healing. They just cannot bear the fact that all their manipulation is wearing off and they can no longer access you once you have healed from all the trauma that they put you through. </p>
  340.  
  341.  
  342. <div class="wp-block-image">
  343. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/178.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-5349" width="237" height="136"/></figure></div>
  344.  
  345.  
  346. <p><strong>Why is Emotional and Mental Healing important?</strong></p>
  347.  
  348.  
  349.  
  350. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  351. <li>Emotional and Mental healing is important for stabilizing the beneficial behavior for the emotional and mental well-being of society.</li>
  352.  
  353.  
  354.  
  355. <li>It can enhance mental stability, productivity, and confidence and improves relationships.</li>
  356.  
  357.  
  358.  
  359. <li>Helps to cope with stress.</li>
  360.  
  361.  
  362.  
  363. <li>It increases work productivity.</li>
  364.  
  365.  
  366.  
  367. <li>It helps in maintaining healthy relationships.</li>
  368.  
  369.  
  370.  
  371. <li>It helps in maintaining balance in life.</li>
  372.  
  373.  
  374.  
  375. <li>It enhances self-esteem, self-worth, and positivity in life.</li>
  376.  
  377.  
  378.  
  379. <li>It helps eradicate stress, depression, and negativity from life.</li>
  380. </ul>
  381.  
  382.  
  383.  
  384. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">2. Cut off all contact with them </h3>
  385.  
  386.  
  387.  
  388. <p>Not being able to reach you is a big turn-off moment for a narcissist. So use this opportunity to your benefit. When you feel you cannot take a narcissist anymore or need proper closure for all the trauma that you have faced because of them, then just go no contact or block them. When you want to gain your freedom from the claws of the narcissist or break the narcissist&#8217;s heart, that is when you follow the <strong><em>&#8220;NO CONTACT&#8221;</em></strong> rule, which exactly means,</p>
  389.  
  390.  
  391.  
  392. <p>The &#8220;NO CONTACT&#8221; rule is your way of saying <strong>&#8220;Just Not anymore&#8221;</strong> to the narcissistic abuse, the violence if in case, the manipulative tactics, and being used as a pawn. It is difficult or almost impossible to win against a narcissist through words, or with fights or verbal arguments, but you can win by going wordless, contactless, and reachless. This is how you fight against a narcissist by <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/no-contact-revenge-for-a-narcissist/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/no-contact-revenge-for-a-narcissist/">no-contact revenge</a> when you are totally done with them. </p>
  393.  
  394.  
  395. <div class="wp-block-image">
  396. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/183.png" alt="" class="wp-image-5428" width="168" height="168" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/183.png 225w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/183-150x150.png 150w" sizes="(max-width: 168px) 100vw, 168px" /></figure></div>
  397.  
  398.  
  399. <p><strong>Going No Contact with a narcissist includes no physical contact,</strong></p>
  400.  
  401.  
  402.  
  403. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  404. <li>No contacting or staying in touch</li>
  405.  
  406.  
  407.  
  408. <li>No calls, texts, and no connections through social media</li>
  409.  
  410.  
  411.  
  412. <li>No casual meetups or encounters</li>
  413.  
  414.  
  415.  
  416. <li>No more being friends with them</li>
  417.  
  418.  
  419.  
  420. <li>No more exchanging gifts</li>
  421.  
  422.  
  423.  
  424. <li>Not even meeting them through the mutual social group or gatherings or even family</li>
  425. </ul>
  426.  
  427.  
  428.  
  429. <p><em><em>In short, the &#8220;NO CONTACT&#8221; rule is staying aloof from all places, people, and things that may eventually end up in chances of meeting or connecting with the narcissist. It is like <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-ghost-a-narcissist/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-ghost-a-narcissist/">ghosting</a> them. Going no-contact is very much similar for that matter.</em></em></p>
  430.  
  431.  
  432.  
  433. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">3. Set firm boundaries to protect yourself</h3>
  434.  
  435.  
  436.  
  437. <p>Narcissists tend to have a sense of entitlement and take advantage of other people&#8217;s weaknesses. Therefore they may always try to push other people&#8217;s boundaries and manipulate them. So another important step in dealing with a narcissist while breaking their heart is to set up clear and firm boundaries. This means being clear about what you will and will not tolerate from the narcissist. It is important to communicate these boundaries clearly, both verbally and in writing, and to stick to them consistently. </p>
  438.  
  439.  
  440.  
  441. <p>Drawing clear boundaries would ensure that a narcissist has no longer control over you &amp; your <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissist-and-money-control/">money</a> and that you can ask them to behave the way you want. This also means gaining back all the power that they just had suppressed or ignored. </p>
  442.  
  443.  
  444.  
  445. <p><strong>What does setting boundaries mean? </strong></p>
  446.  
  447.  
  448.  
  449. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  450. <li>It means you can ask a narcissist not to call you anymore, you can <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-does-a-narcissist-react-to-being-blocked/">block them</a>, you can move on without their consent, and by stating clearly that they should keep their distance from you and that they have no control over you. </li>
  451.  
  452.  
  453.  
  454. <li>The main step is taking your <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/ways-to-talk-to-a-narcissist-and-take-your-power-back/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/ways-to-talk-to-a-narcissist-and-take-your-power-back/">power</a> back while setting boundaries. Narcissists can be demanding and take up a lot of your time and energy. </li>
  455.  
  456.  
  457.  
  458. <li>Setting boundaries means defining what sort of behaviors are acceptable, and what actions are not acceptable, and making it clear what all practices are acceptable and unacceptable. </li>
  459. </ul>
  460.  
  461.  
  462.  
  463. <p>Setting boundaries helps you protect your time, space, and mental health. Narcissists tend to cross boundaries frequently. Being firm and assertive about your limits and holding them accountable if they violate them is also one of the best to set boundaries. You can save yourself from the narcissist blaming you to be a narcissist by holding up your guard by making firm boundaries. </p>
  464.  
  465.  
  466.  
  467. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">4. Steer clear or be attentive to all the love bombing that you might receive in future</h3>
  468.  
  469.  
  470.  
  471. <p>Love bombing is an act to secure the attention, of a beloved someone by showering them with an obscure amount of gifts, affection, and acclamations. It is a manipulation tactic in the initial stages of meeting someone to secure a relationship with them to get control, hold, and a strong hand in the relationship. </p>
  472.  
  473.  
  474.  
  475. <p>Love bombing is usually used by narcissists when they cheat or find their partner moving away.  Love bombing seems toxic and it is toxic as love bombers have the purpose of controlling the relationship and holding a strong foot in the relationship. It is all about gaining control and being the upper hand in a relationship. </p>
  476.  
  477.  
  478. <div class="wp-block-image">
  479. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/149-1.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-4069" width="150" height="150" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/149-1.jpg 626w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/149-1-300x300.jpg 300w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/149-1-150x150.jpg 150w" sizes="(max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px" /></figure></div>
  480.  
  481.  
  482. <p>Narcissists jump to love bombing as soon as they discover that you are slipping away from their grip. Thus they might do everything in their power to get you back whether it is by showering excessive love, gifts, and attention. But if you are well aware of the <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/love-bombing-vs-infatuation-15-main-differences/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/love-bombing-vs-infatuation-15-main-differences/">love-bombing</a> technique well in advance, then you can just skip all that and save yourself from the fake emotions. So steering clear or being attentive to all the love bombing that you might receive in the future may save you entirely from all the fake emotions, convincing, and <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" target="_blank" rel="noopener">manipulation</a>. </p>
  483.  
  484.  
  485.  
  486. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">5. Flaunt how happy you are or you feel without them in your life</h3>
  487.  
  488.  
  489.  
  490. <p>Showing a narcissist how happy you are without them can just set their mood off or might even make them a little sad too. Proving that you are happy without them can intimidate a narcissist making them annoyed. Narcissists totally <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/why-do-narcissists-get-jealous/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/why-do-narcissists-get-jealous/">envy</a> that you are happy without them. They feel that they are losing their importance in your life. They are scared that you can also be independently happy without them. </p>
  491.  
  492.  
  493.  
  494. <p><strong>How two flaunt your happiness to a narcissist without putting in much effort?</strong></p>
  495.  
  496.  
  497.  
  498. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  499. <li>Posting about your happy life on social media through photographs would leave a narcissist wondering and pissed. </li>
  500.  
  501.  
  502.  
  503. <li>Try to flaunt your happiness by appreciating your life, your other friends, and all the blessings you have that exclude them. </li>
  504.  
  505.  
  506.  
  507. <li>Socialize with other people as much as possible and do not forget to post about that on any social media platform, as narcissists make sure to check out profiles of all their exes for whom they still have lingering feelings. </li>
  508.  
  509.  
  510.  
  511. <li>Meet new people, make new friends, or even try to move on from the previous relationship to a new and better relationship if you are comfortable. </li>
  512. </ul>
  513.  
  514.  
  515.  
  516. <p>These actions can totally set off the mood of the narcissist and can even make them feel left out or abandoned.</p>
  517.  
  518.  
  519.  
  520. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">6. Do not give in </h3>
  521.  
  522.  
  523.  
  524. <p>Narcissists always try to lure in their exes or someone they have just dumped or discarded when they need them. Remorse, repentance, change, guilt, or forgiveness are mere words for a narcissist. They would be acting all gullible and would show repentance after you break up with them, but it is just until you <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-to-make-a-narcissist-come-crawling-back/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-to-make-a-narcissist-come-crawling-back/">come back</a> into their life. They do not have any sense of dejection after your break up. They would just show that they are having trouble moving on and are repentant, but it is all an act.</p>
  525.  
  526.  
  527.  
  528. <p>Do not give in to their manipulative tactics, be firm about your decision and just forget that they ever existed in your life also make sure to mention this on a loop to the narcissist, which will prove that you no longer want them, and have completely moved on in life. This will definitely hurt their pride and make them sad even if for a while.</p>
  529.  
  530.  
  531.  
  532. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">7. Talking to other people and making new friends</h3>
  533.  
  534.  
  535. <div class="wp-block-image">
  536. <figure class="aligncenter size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="160" height="160" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/118.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-10232" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/118.jpg 160w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/118-150x150.jpg 150w" sizes="(max-width: 160px) 100vw, 160px" /></figure></div>
  537.  
  538.  
  539. <p>When you make new <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-do-narcissists-treat-their-friends/">friends</a> or meet new people a narcissist would be unhappy about it, as they just want to isolate you and keep you just for themselves. So meeting new friends, seeking help from others, or talking to new people would piss them off. For instance, if you two are acquainted with the same workplace, then you could ask other people to help you out or talk to others when they are watching would freak them out. </p>
  540.  
  541.  
  542.  
  543. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">8. Deny them whatever they want</h3>
  544.  
  545.  
  546.  
  547. <p>&#8220;No&#8221; is the word that a narcissist cannot take. Do not fulfill any of their requests, or run no more errands for them. Be straightforward and do not hesitate to say a firm no. Thus saying no is very important for you to live peacefully.</p>
  548.  
  549.  
  550.  
  551. <p>When a narcissist is denied something, they may become furious, manipulative, defensive, and also may become vengeful. They may also lash out with rage or would seek revenge whenever they might get a chance. They may devalue the person denying them to regain a sense of power or control. They may also try <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-know-that-they-are-gaslighting/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-know-that-they-are-gaslighting/">gaslighting</a> the other person. Overall denying a narcissist may cause a narcissistic injury as a narcissist might not have expected a no from the other person. Denying them may hurt their ego and pride.</p>
  552.  
  553.  
  554.  
  555. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">9. Ignore all the manipulative tactics </h3>
  556.  
  557.  
  558.  
  559. <p>Narcissists would lure your attention by putting an argument. They would want to aggravate you by making unreasonable arguments and blaming you for all that. This is one of their tactic of <a href="https://psychcentral.com/blog/savvy-shrink/2018/01/the-verbal-vomit-of-the-psychological-abuser-projection-and-blame-shifting" data-type="URL" data-id="https://psychcentral.com/blog/savvy-shrink/2018/01/the-verbal-vomit-of-the-psychological-abuser-projection-and-blame-shifting" target="_blank" rel="noopener">blameshifting</a>, which they would use to just lure your attention to them. Narcissists often demand attention and praise. Refuse to give them what they want, and redirect the conversation or just ignore them entirely. </p>
  560.  
  561.  
  562.  
  563. <p>Remember that a narcissist&#8217;s manipulative tactics are not your fault. They are simply trying to fulfill their own needs and desires at your expense. Stay calm and do not let their behavior affect your self-esteem. </p>
  564.  
  565.  
  566.  
  567. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">10. Be ready to confront whenever you feel so </h3>
  568.  
  569.  
  570.  
  571. <p>When you discover that someone close to you is suffering from NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), the first thing you think of is to tell them or confront them and heal yourself through their repentance. But is it even possible? Should you <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-confront-a-narcissist-with-the-truth/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-confront-a-narcissist-with-the-truth/">confront</a> a narcissist about this? You would wish to get justification for all the miseries that you have suffered because of the narcissist. Vilifying a narcissist&#8217;s toxic behavior is important so that they also get a taste of their bitter deeds, is what you feel, but that sounds a little far-fetched as expecting repentance through confrontation is not a narcissist&#8217;s cup of tea. </p>
  572.  
  573.  
  574.  
  575. <p>Narcissists hate confrontations and thus to seek your revenge you can make them a little worked up. Sometimes you need to act against a narcissist when you are done with their constant manipulation and try to confront them at some excellent timing. By doing so you might feel content for a while and also may feel happy.</p>
  576.  
  577.  
  578.  
  579. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">How to move on from a Narcissist?</h2>
  580.  
  581.  
  582.  
  583. <p>Breaking up with a narcissist can be extremely tough, nerve-wracking, and emotionally draining. If you are in a toxic relationship where your partner is a narcissist, then it becomes extremely important to prioritize your own emotional and mental well-being. Breaking up with a narcissist can be challenging as they often try to manipulate or <a href="https://psychcentral.com/health/guilt-trip" data-type="URL" data-id="https://psychcentral.com/health/guilt-trip" target="_blank" rel="noopener">guilt-trip</a> their partner into staying. </p>
  584.  
  585.  
  586.  
  587. <p>So it becomes extremely important to have a thorough break up with a narcissist with a proper closure. Breaking up or ending things with a narcissist might include chaos, a lot of <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" target="_blank" rel="noopener">manipulation</a>, and criticism, and ultimately it can be a pretty tricky process. So to retain your peace of mind, here are a few successful ways to easily move on from a narcissist. </p>
  588.  
  589.  
  590. <div class="wp-block-image">
  591. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/143.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-10233" width="170" height="170" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/143.jpg 245w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/143-150x150.jpg 150w" sizes="(max-width: 170px) 100vw, 170px" /></figure></div>
  592.  
  593.  
  594. <p>Working on your self-confidence, your goals, and mental peace in mental health aspects. </p>
  595.  
  596.  
  597.  
  598. <p>Exercise more, take a proper diet, and build up your physical health. </p>
  599.  
  600.  
  601.  
  602. <p>Do not let anyone bring down your confidence and <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-love" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-love" target="_blank" rel="noopener">self-love</a>. Narcissists have a tendency to ruin the definition for you, but find the meaning of love again by seeking help. </p>
  603.  
  604.  
  605.  
  606. <p>Connect with nature, adopt a pet, or find new people to connect with. </p>
  607.  
  608.  
  609.  
  610. <p>Focus on your own well-being and take care of yourself. </p>
  611.  
  612.  
  613.  
  614. <p>Avoid the narcissists&#8217; negativity and toxicity by engaging in activities that make you happy and fulfilled.</p>
  615.  
  616.  
  617.  
  618. <p>Connect with friends and family who understand the narcissist&#8217;s behavior and can offer you emotional support. Therapy can also be helpful in dealing with post-relationship trauma. </p>
  619.  
  620.  
  621.  
  622. <figure class="wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio"><div class="wp-block-embed__wrapper">
  623. <div class="video-container"><iframe title="5 Ways To Break A Narcissist&#039;s Heart" width="500" height="281" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/Zbq5KJkPVH0?feature=oembed&#038;wmode=opaque" frameborder="0" allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share" referrerpolicy="strict-origin-when-cross-origin" allowfullscreen></iframe></div>
  624. </div></figure>
  625.  
  626.  
  627.  
  628. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Inferences</h2>
  629.  
  630.  
  631.  
  632. <p>Breaking a narcissist&#8217;s heart is not a healthy approach or a solution to the problem. Instead, focus on protecting yourself and setting clear boundaries. Be assertive but calm, limit your exposure to the narcissist, and always consider seeking professional help whenever needed. There is no shame in seeking therapy or opening up to someone regarding the issues in your life. Remember that you have control over your own well-being, and it is important to prioritize it above everything else. </p>
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  645. <title>Am I a Narcissist or a Codependent? (Reality Check)</title>
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  658. <p>Am I a Narcissist or a Codependent? If you are struggling to figure out whether you are suffering from a mental health disorder or you are just a codependent person, then this article is the correct place for you as you can clear your confusion here regarding the same. </p>
  659.  
  660.  
  661.  
  662. <p>If you are unable to distinguish between the personality of a third person, or you are quizzing your own personality and getting confused whether or not you are a narcissist, or just a codependent individual who is struggling to find out their personality but unable to do so due to hazy clouds of confusion. So how should you find the real difference or find out the answer to the question? Let us discuss that further in the article. </p>
  663.  
  664.  
  665.  
  666. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">What is a Narcissist?</h2>
  667.  
  668.  
  669.  
  670. <p class="wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio">A <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/understanding-narcissistic-behavior/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/understanding-narcissistic-behavior/">Narcissist</a> is an individual who is often defined as a difficult individual, very difficult to live with, and tough to endure. A Narcissist is an individual who is excessively obsessed with having <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-does-a-narcissist-react-when-they-cannot-control-you/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-does-a-narcissist-react-when-they-cannot-control-you/">control</a>, also they expect everyone around them to focus just on them. </p>
  671.  
  672.  
  673.  
  674. <p class="wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio">They intend to be the center of attraction in all situations. They should always be the elephant in the room, control freaks, are sly, mean, selfish, and much more. Most importantly Narcissists lack empathy on many occasions until it affects them. Narcissists do know empathy, but they never tend to caring, understanding, and easygoing for others as they think vulnerability and being soft to others are negative traits that can be used against them.</p>
  675.  
  676.  
  677.  
  678. <p class="wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio">A narcissist is capable of feeling all <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/can-a-narcissist-fall-in-love/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/can-a-narcissist-fall-in-love/">emotions</a>, it is just that they d not acknowledge them and express them due to their vulnerabilities. They fear expressing emotions can make them emotionally weak and vulnerable to their partner. They fear that once they surrender to their feelings they might lose control. Narcissists are incapable of understanding and <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-do-narcissists-feel-when-you-move-on/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-do-narcissists-feel-when-you-move-on/">exchanging feelings</a> with others. They are self-obsessed and self-absorbed. They can not think from anyone else&#8217;s viewpoint.</p>
  679.  
  680.  
  681.  
  682. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Characteristics of a Narcissist</h3>
  683.  
  684.  
  685.  
  686. <p>Narcissists possess some traits or characteristics that make them a little hard to deal with. Some peculiar narcissistic traits include, </p>
  687.  
  688.  
  689.  
  690. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  691. <li><strong>Lack</strong> of <strong>sensitivity</strong> and <strong>empathy</strong>.</li>
  692.  
  693.  
  694.  
  695. <li>Are <strong>self-centric</strong>.</li>
  696.  
  697.  
  698.  
  699. <li><strong>Blame others</strong> for your mistakes.</li>
  700.  
  701.  
  702.  
  703. <li>Have <strong>unhealthy relations</strong>.</li>
  704.  
  705.  
  706.  
  707. <li><strong>Arrogance and anger</strong> is your first reaction to any problems.</li>
  708.  
  709.  
  710.  
  711. <li><strong>Hate changes</strong> and also cannot take them well.</li>
  712.  
  713.  
  714.  
  715. <li>Are <strong>emotionally unstable</strong> and unavailable.</li>
  716.  
  717.  
  718.  
  719. <li><strong>Takes advantage</strong> of others easily.</li>
  720.  
  721.  
  722.  
  723. <li>Are <strong>abusive</strong>.</li>
  724.  
  725.  
  726.  
  727. <li><strong>Lack</strong> of <strong>self-awareness</strong> and <strong>self-reflection</strong>.</li>
  728.  
  729.  
  730.  
  731. <li>Always <strong>expect more</strong> from others.</li>
  732.  
  733.  
  734.  
  735. <li>Boosted sense of <strong>self-importance</strong>.</li>
  736.  
  737.  
  738.  
  739. <li><strong>Obsession</strong> with <strong>image</strong> and <strong>reputation</strong>. </li>
  740.  
  741.  
  742.  
  743. <li>Tendency to manipulate others mostly by <strong><a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-know-that-they-are-gaslighting/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-know-that-they-are-gaslighting/">gaslighting</a></strong> them. </li>
  744.  
  745.  
  746.  
  747. <li><strong>Preoccupation with fantasies</strong> of power, success, looks, and money. </li>
  748. </ul>
  749.  
  750.  
  751. <div class="wp-block-image">
  752. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/141.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-10181" width="249" height="125" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/141.jpg 474w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/141-300x150.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 249px) 100vw, 249px" /></figure></div>
  753.  
  754.  
  755. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">What is a codependent?</h2>
  756.  
  757.  
  758.  
  759. <p>A codependent is a person who is too much reliant on another person for their emotional, physical, and psychological well-being. They have a little difficulty in setting boundaries, saying no to something or someone, and also making important decisions for themselves. They always tend to prioritize other people&#8217;s needs over theirs and often feel responsible for other person&#8217;s happiness and well-being. They simply think about other people&#8217;s needs, feelings, and emotions way too much and also ignore their own feelings in that case. In many cases, they also struggle with low self-esteem, fear of displeasing or upsetting others, and a constant fear of abandonment. They constantly fear being left alone and hence they do everything to keep others pleased. </p>
  760.  
  761.  
  762.  
  763. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Characteristics of a Codependent</h3>
  764.  
  765.  
  766.  
  767. <p>Some traits or characteristics of a codependent are as follows,</p>
  768.  
  769.  
  770.  
  771. <p><strong>Low self-esteem</strong> &#8211; Codependents often lack self-worth and seek validation through others. </p>
  772.  
  773.  
  774.  
  775. <p><strong>Difficulty setting boundaries</strong> &#8211; Codependents have a really hard time setting boundaries or saying no. They always put everyone else&#8217;s needs first than theirs and have a tough time asserting themselves. </p>
  776.  
  777.  
  778.  
  779. <p><strong>Granting or enabling behavior </strong>&#8211;  Codependents have a good tolerance for bad or destructive behavior from their loved ones. Sometimes they even tolerate self-destructive behavior like substance abuse. </p>
  780.  
  781.  
  782.  
  783. <p><strong>Difficulty expressing emotions</strong> &#8211; Codependents may have a hard time expressing their own emotions or needs and may have a tendency to suppress or rationalize their feelings. </p>
  784.  
  785.  
  786.  
  787. <p><strong>Fear of Abandonment</strong> &#8211; Codependents may have a fear of being alone and often tolerate mistreatment or abuse to avoid being abandoned. </p>
  788.  
  789.  
  790.  
  791. <p><strong>Denial </strong>&#8211; Codependents may ignore or deny their own feelings or the issues in their relationships to avoid conflict or to keep the peace. </p>
  792.  
  793.  
  794.  
  795. <p><strong>Need for control</strong> &#8211; Codependents may try to control their environment or the people around them to feel secure. </p>
  796.  
  797.  
  798.  
  799. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Some common personality traits that overlap between a narcissist and a codependent </h2>
  800.  
  801.  
  802.  
  803. <p>The personality traits that overlap between a narcissist and a codependent are as follows,</p>
  804.  
  805.  
  806.  
  807. <p><strong>Need for control</strong> &#8211; Both personality types tend to have a strong need for control but in a very different way. A narcissist has a strong desire to <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-lack-self-control/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-lack-self-control/">control</a> other people, while a codependent wants to control their surrounding environment to feel safe and secure both for themselves and for others.</p>
  808.  
  809.  
  810.  
  811. <p><strong>A constant struggle to regulate emotions</strong> &#8211; Both personalities have a constant struggle with emotional dysfunction but in very different ways. Narcissists have difficulty regulating negative emotions like anger, <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-rage-eyes-why-do-their-eyes-go-black-dark/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-rage-eyes-why-do-their-eyes-go-black-dark/">rage</a>, and so on. Whereas codependents struggle to express their real emotions and always end up fulfilling other people&#8217;s emotional needs over their own. </p>
  812.  
  813.  
  814.  
  815. <p><strong>Low self-esteem</strong> &#8211; Both the narcissist and the codependent suffer from low esteem but have drastically different ways to express this. </p>
  816.  
  817.  
  818.  
  819. <p><strong>Lack of Boundaries</strong> &#8211; Both personality types have difficulty setting up healthy boundaries, while narcissists often disrupt other people&#8217;s boundaries, codependents just cannot say no or deny anyone thus dismantling their own boundaries. </p>
  820.  
  821.  
  822.  
  823. <p><strong>Need for approval</strong> &#8211; Narcissists and codependents both seek approval from others, but the reasons are different as usual. Narcissists seek validation and admiration to boost their own ego while codependents seek validation and admiration to feel loved and accepted. </p>
  824.  
  825.  
  826.  
  827. <p><strong>Difficulty in dealing with intimacy</strong> &#8211; Both narcissists and codependents have difficulty in dealing with intimacy but for majorly different reasons. Both personality types cannot deal aptly with <a href="https://psychcentral.com/blog/6-steps-to-improving-emotional-intimacy-with-your-partner" data-type="URL" data-id="https://psychcentral.com/blog/6-steps-to-improving-emotional-intimacy-with-your-partner" target="_blank" rel="noopener">emotional intimacy </a>and vulnerability for varied reasons. Narcissists fear being vulnerable as they believe it might threaten their ego, while codependents may fear intimacy because it puts them at risk of being left out, <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-reject-or-ignore-a-narcissist/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-reject-or-ignore-a-narcissist/">rejected</a>, or abandoned by others. </p>
  828.  
  829.  
  830.  
  831. <figure class="wp-block-pullquote has-accent-color has-text-color"><blockquote><p><strong>Am I a Narcissist or a Codependent?</strong></p><cite><strong>So how can you tell where do you lie on which side or are you in between somewhere?</strong> &#8211; Despite the overlap between the two personalities, there are possibilities to know where you lie on the spectrum of narcissism and codependency which have been discussed further. </cite></blockquote></figure>
  832.  
  833.  
  834. <div class="wp-block-image">
  835. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/140.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-10182" width="254" height="143" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/140.jpg 474w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/140-300x168.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 254px) 100vw, 254px" /></figure></div>
  836.  
  837.  
  838. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Points of difference between a Narcissist and a Codependent </h2>
  839.  
  840.  
  841.  
  842. <p>Narcissists and codependents are two different personality types with distinct traits and behaviors. Here are some points of difference between them respectively,</p>
  843.  
  844.  
  845.  
  846. <figure class="wp-block-table"><table><tbody><tr><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center"><strong>Point of differentiation<br></strong></td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center"><strong>Narcissist</strong></td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center"><strong>Codependent </strong></td></tr><tr><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center"><strong>Self-esteem</strong></td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center">Narcissists have a grandiose sense of self-importance, self-esteem knowledge, and power.</td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center">Codependents have a low sense of self-worth and self-esteem.</td></tr><tr><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center"><strong>Empathy</strong></td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center">Narcissists lack empathy for others and often show disinterest or a lack of concern and care for other people and their feelings.</td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center">Codependents are too much empathetic and often put everyone else&#8217;s needs and emotions first and above their own needs and emotions.</td></tr><tr><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center"><strong>Admiration and validation</strong></td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center">Narcissists require constant admiration and validation.</td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center">Codependents tend to seek approval and validation from others.</td></tr><tr><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center"><strong>Control</strong></td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center">Narcissists often have unstable relationships fueled by their need for control and validation.</td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center">Codependents can become overly dependent on some specific individuals whom they really adore, and struggle to set healthy boundaries.</td></tr><tr><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center"><strong>Sense of entitlement</strong></td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center">Narcissists often have a sense of entitlement and can be highly manipulative in getting what they desire.</td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center">Codependents can be overly supporting and fulfilling other people&#8217;s wants and needs, even at the expense of their own well-being.</td></tr><tr><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center"><strong>Materialistic needs</strong></td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center">Narcissists tend to be highly materialistic.</td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center">Codependents often lack materialistic possessions and even such desires rather they often focus on maintaining emotional connection.</td></tr><tr><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center"><strong>Blameshift</strong></td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center">Narcissists tend to blame others for their difficulties, failures, and shortcomings in life.</td><td class="has-text-align-center" data-align="center">Codependents often blame themselves and take responsibility for other people&#8217;s negative behavior.</td></tr></tbody></table></figure>
  847.  
  848.  
  849.  
  850. <p>So circling back to the question, &#8220;Am I a Narcissist or a Codependent?&#8221;, let us get to know and get a reality check. </p>
  851.  
  852.  
  853.  
  854. <h2 class="wp-block-heading has-accent-color has-text-color"><strong>Note:</strong></h2>
  855.  
  856.  
  857.  
  858. <p class="has-accent-color has-text-color"><em>It is essential to note that neither narcissism nor codependency should be confirmed as a diagnosis of an individual&#8217;s personality type unless it has been determined by a qualified and verified health professional. The therapists or doctors can work more accurately to analyze and understand your behavioral patterns and provide you with appropriate therapeutic support to meet your emotional needs and also guide you in the correct direction. </em></p>
  859.  
  860.  
  861.  
  862. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Am I a Narcissist or a Codependent?</h2>
  863.  
  864.  
  865.  
  866. <p>As individuals, we all have diverse personalities and traits that make us unique and attractive at the same time. Some individuals can get self-assured at a relatively early span of life, while some individuals depend largely on others to assure them. They do this to make them feel good about themselves. If you find yourself in a situation where you are all confused about being a narcissist or a codependent, it becomes vital here to find out the true answer and get the reality check done. Knowing thoroughly about both personalities becomes the prime step to getting started. </p>
  867.  
  868.  
  869.  
  870. <p>Narcissism is related to a person having an excessive sense of self-importance, grandiosity, and self-obsession. They seek admiration, adoration, and validation to the point where it starts turning into <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" target="_blank" rel="noopener">manipulative</a> abuse and exploitation of others. Narcissists crave and are likely aware of the manipulation that they render upon others. </p>
  871.  
  872.  
  873.  
  874. <p>Codependency refers to a person having a deep-rooted need to be just needed. The individual&#8217;s self-worth lies solely in helping others, and pleasing others even though it is meant by sacrificing their own needs, happiness, or desires. Codependents have a habit of putting others before themselves and also taking responsibilities that are not their own. </p>
  875.  
  876.  
  877. <div class="wp-block-image">
  878. <figure class="aligncenter size-large is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/142-1024x1024.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-10183" width="191" height="191" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/142-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/142-300x300.jpg 300w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/142-150x150.jpg 150w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/142-768x768.jpg 768w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/142-1536x1536.jpg 1536w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/142.jpg 1920w" sizes="(max-width: 191px) 100vw, 191px" /></figure></div>
  879.  
  880.  
  881. <p><strong>So how can you tell where do you lie on which side or are you in between somewhere?</strong></p>
  882.  
  883.  
  884.  
  885. <p>So it becomes important here to note that there can be some overlaps between characteristics of narcissism and codependency. This overlap makes the process of recognizing your position on the spectrum even more difficult; complicating the self-diagnosis and making it challenging to know conclusively whether or not an individual exhibits the behavioral patterns, characteristics, and traits of a narcissist or a codependent.</p>
  886.  
  887.  
  888.  
  889. <p>However, despite the overlap between the two personalities, there are possibilities to know where you lie on the spectrum of narcissism and codependency.  </p>
  890.  
  891.  
  892.  
  893. <p><strong>If you are more self-centered and obsessed with self achievements, self-development, and everything related to just yourself, then there is a high probability of you leaning towards narcissism. Whereas if you are self-sacrificing, always putting everyone else&#8217;s needs first, and identify yourself with others and not above others you are highly likely to be more on the codependent side. </strong></p>
  894.  
  895.  
  896.  
  897. <p>It is essential to note that neither narcissism nor codependency should be confirmed as a diagnosis of an individual&#8217;s personality type unless it has been determined by a qualified and verified health professional. The therapists or doctors can work more accurately to analyze and understand your behavioral patterns and provide you with appropriate therapeutic support to meet your emotional needs and also guide you in the correct direction. </p>
  898.  
  899.  
  900.  
  901. <figure class="wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio"><div class="wp-block-embed__wrapper">
  902. <div class="video-container"><iframe title="Are You A Narcissist Or A Codependent" width="500" height="281" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/fLqlhJfXNPE?feature=oembed&#038;wmode=opaque" frameborder="0" allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share" referrerpolicy="strict-origin-when-cross-origin" allowfullscreen></iframe></div>
  903. </div></figure>
  904.  
  905.  
  906.  
  907. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">In Conclusion</h2>
  908.  
  909.  
  910.  
  911. <p>In conclusion, the line between narcissism and codependency is relatively thin or hard to distinguish, and it can be complicated to tell where you exactly fall; on which side precisely, or somewhere in between. The overlap also makes it vague to distinguish with accuracy. However, identifying where you land can help you take steps toward building a healthier relationship with yourself and others. </p>
  912.  
  913.  
  914.  
  915. <p>By understanding your behavior you can address the underlying issues that might need to be addressed more vividly and also might be affecting your overall well-being and also help you to achieve a more balanced life further. Seeking out help from professionals can help you find the right balance, opting correct options and a path that may lead to providing answers and healing. </p>
  916.  
  917.  
  918.  
  919. <p>If you are more self-centered and obsessed with self achievements, self-development, and everything related to just yourself, then there is a high probability of you leaning towards narcissism. Whereas if you are self-sacrificing, always putting everyone else&#8217;s needs first, and identify yourself with others and not above others you are highly likely to be more on the codependent side. </p>
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  933. <pubDate>Sat, 21 Dec 2024 08:35:06 +0000</pubDate>
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  939. <description><![CDATA[Will a Narcissist physically hurt you? Physical abuse is a serious form of exploitation and it is a big red flag. Physical abuse includes any intentional physical harm or injury inflicted by one person&#46;&#46;&#46;]]></description>
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  941. <p>Will a Narcissist physically hurt you? Physical abuse is a serious form of exploitation and it is a big red flag. Physical abuse includes any intentional physical harm or injury inflicted by one person upon another. It can include hitting, choking, slapping, punching, intimidating, or any other action that causes bodily harm or injury. </p>
  942.  
  943.  
  944.  
  945. <p>To hurt someone physically means abusing someone through violence. Physical abuse can result in serious physical injuries or even the possibility of near-death experiences. It can affect a person&#8217;s physical and emotional well-being. It is a form of domestic violence and can occur within intimate partner relationships, families, or any other personal relationship. </p>
  946.  
  947.  
  948.  
  949. <p>So is it possible that a narcissist might cause you physical harm or hurt you physically? Let us get to know further through this article and obtain answers to the question, &#8220;Will a Narcissist Physically Hurt You?&#8221;.</p>
  950.  
  951.  
  952.  
  953. <p><strong>While not all narcissists tend to physically abuse, but this cannot be generalized for all types of narcissistic personalities. Thus it becomes necessary to know about the potential harm that a narcissist might or can cause and also ways to avoid getting into such situations with the narcissist. </strong></p>
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  956. <div class="wp-block-image">
  957. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/137.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-10137" width="288" height="115" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/137.jpg 612w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/137-300x120.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 288px) 100vw, 288px" /></figure></div>
  958.  
  959.  
  960. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Will a Narcissist Physically Hurt You? (Truth Revealed)</h2>
  961.  
  962.  
  963.  
  964. <p>Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be a roller coaster ride of emotions, but one question that often arises is whether a narcissist would physically hurt you! it is a valid concern for someone who is either committed to a narcissist or is currently dating a narcissist. As <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/god-complex-vs-narcissism-are-both-of-these-the-same/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/god-complex-vs-narcissism-are-both-of-these-the-same/">narcissism</a> is very well associated with abuse, be it physical, mental, or emotional. Narcissistic abuse can take many different forms. So exploring the real truth behind this statement or question becomes crucial here. </p>
  965.  
  966.  
  967.  
  968. <p>Firstly it is important to understand that not all narcissists are the same. There are different types of narcissists, and they may exhibit different behavioral characteristics. However, a common trait that is believed to be common amongst all types of narcissistic personalities is the lack of empathy and the desire to maintain control and <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/will-too-much-power-make-a-person-narcissist/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/will-too-much-power-make-a-person-narcissist/">power</a> over their partners. </p>
  969.  
  970.  
  971.  
  972. <p>Narcissists might inflict physical harm or hurt someone physically if and only if they feel the sense of entitlement, <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-lack-self-control/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-lack-self-control/">control</a>, or their dominance is being challenged or when someone might aggravate them beyond certain limits. In such situations, narcissists might opt to inflict physical harm on the other person just to prove who is the real boss or whose power is insatiable. </p>
  973.  
  974.  
  975. <div class="wp-block-image">
  976. <figure class="aligncenter size-large is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/135-1024x653.png" alt="" class="wp-image-10136" width="178" height="113" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/135-1024x653.png 1024w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/135-300x191.png 300w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/135-768x490.png 768w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/135-1536x979.png 1536w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/135-2048x1306.png 2048w" sizes="(max-width: 178px) 100vw, 178px" /></figure></div>
  977.  
  978.  
  979. <p>Narcissists lack empathy which is one of the key emotions to understanding anyone else&#8217;s emotions or feeling sympathy for others. Also, narcissists believe that they are perfect and they cannot be the root cause of any problem, thus they blame or <a href="https://psychcentral.com/blog/savvy-shrink/2018/07/what-is-narcissistic-projection-a-blame-shifting-tactic-of-the-extreme-narcissist#1" data-type="URL" data-id="https://psychcentral.com/blog/savvy-shrink/2018/07/what-is-narcissistic-projection-a-blame-shifting-tactic-of-the-extreme-narcissist#1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">shift the blame</a> onto others without making much effort. These two characteristics or personality traits make a narcissistic individual even more prone to inflict physical harm upon others to prove a point or to save their egos.</p>
  980.  
  981.  
  982.  
  983. <p>Narcissists believe that they are more important than anyone else and that their thoughts feelings and emotions should be prioritized by all. If someone threatens to challenge their sense of superiority, they might lash out physically. Additionally, they might harm someone to intimidate or control them as they see fit. </p>
  984.  
  985.  
  986.  
  987. <p>Narcissists blame others for their mistakes because they have a fragile sense of self-esteem and a deep fear of being exposed as flawed or imperfect. Blaming others help them maintain their sense of superiority and avoid taking responsibility for their actions. </p>
  988.  
  989.  
  990.  
  991. <p><em><strong>To understand the correlation between narcissism and physical harm or physical abuse, let us find some reasonings based on research studies done and published by psychology experts, or by professors and mental health experts. </strong></em></p>
  992.  
  993.  
  994.  
  995. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  996. <li>A study published in the <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/home/jiv" data-type="URL" data-id="https://journals.sagepub.com/home/jiv" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Journal of Interpersonal Violence</a> found that narcissistic personality traits were significantly associated with physical aggression in romantic relationships. </li>
  997. </ul>
  998.  
  999.  
  1000.  
  1001. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  1002. <li>Research published in the <a href="https://research.com/journal/journal-of-abnormal-psychology" data-type="URL" data-id="https://research.com/journal/journal-of-abnormal-psychology" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Journal of Abnormal Psychology</a> found that narcissistic individuals were more likely to engage in physical aggression towards their partners, compared to non-narcissistic individuals. </li>
  1003. </ul>
  1004.  
  1005.  
  1006.  
  1007. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  1008. <li>A study published in the <a href="https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/journal/1464066X" data-type="URL" data-id="https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/journal/1464066X" target="_blank" rel="noopener">International Journal of Psychological Studies</a> reported that individuals with high levels of narcissism were more likely to physically abuse their partners. </li>
  1009. </ul>
  1010.  
  1011.  
  1012.  
  1013. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  1014. <li>A study published in the <a href="https://guilfordjournals.com/journal/pedi" data-type="URL" data-id="https://guilfordjournals.com/journal/pedi" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Journal of Personality Disorders</a> found that narcissistic individuals were significantly more likely to engage in physical abuse towards their partners compared to someone who is a non-narcissistic individual. </li>
  1015. </ul>
  1016.  
  1017.  
  1018.  
  1019. <p>Overall all of these studies suggest that there is a strong link between narcissism and physical abuse and that victims of narcissistic abuse are more likely to experience physical violence than those who are not. It is important to seek help and support if you or someone else is a victim of physical abuse from a narcissist. </p>
  1020.  
  1021.  
  1022. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1023. <figure class="aligncenter size-large is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/139-1024x814.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-10138" width="218" height="172" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/139-1024x814.jpg 1024w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/139-768x611.jpg 768w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/139-1536x1222.jpg 1536w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/139.jpg 1920w" sizes="(max-width: 218px) 100vw, 218px" /></figure></div>
  1024.  
  1025.  
  1026. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Is Narcissist abuse recognizable?</h2>
  1027.  
  1028.  
  1029.  
  1030. <p>Is Narcisist&#8217;s physical abuse recognizable? Narcissistic abuse can be incredibly subtle and manipulative in some cases, making it difficult for victims to recognize and seek help. If a narcissist feels threatened or challenged in any way, they may resort to physical violence to maintain their control. However physical violence is not always the answer and many narcissists may use other tactics to exert power over their partner. </p>
  1031.  
  1032.  
  1033.  
  1034. <p>One of the most common tactics that narcissists use to physically or mentally abuse their partners is by <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting" target="_blank" rel="noopener">gaslighting</a> them. This is a form of emotional abuse where the narcissist manipulates the victim into questioning their own reality. The narcissist may tell lies, deny their behavior, launch a smear campaign to damage their partner&#8217;s reputation, or twist the truth to make the victim doubt their own memory and perception of events. This can be incredibly damaging to a person&#8217;s mental health, and it&#8217;s often the first step in isolating the victim from their support network. </p>
  1035.  
  1036.  
  1037.  
  1038. <p>Narcissists may also engage in verbal abuse, which can be just as damaging as physical violence. They may belittle, criticize, and insult their partner, causing long-term emotional pain and trauma. </p>
  1039.  
  1040.  
  1041.  
  1042. <p>While physical violence is always a possibility in abusive relationships, it is important to understand that not all narcissists will resort to physical violence. However, the threat of violence, whether it is verbal or physical can just be as damaging to a person&#8217;s well-being. </p>
  1043.  
  1044.  
  1045.  
  1046. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">What are the chances of physical abuse when you are in a relationship or commitment with a narcissist?</h2>
  1047.  
  1048.  
  1049.  
  1050. <p>Narcissists may become physically aggressive or violent if their sense of superiority or control is challenged or threatened. They inflict physical harm on their partners as a way to control and assert power over them. The chances of physical abuse can vary largely depending on various factors such as the severity or the degree of narcissism that one might possess, the environment that they were brought up into, and the company they choose. </p>
  1051.  
  1052.  
  1053. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1054. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/138.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-10139" width="194" height="139" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/138.jpg 612w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/138-300x214.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 194px) 100vw, 194px" /></figure></div>
  1055.  
  1056.  
  1057. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Reasons why a narcissist might choose physical violence </h2>
  1058.  
  1059.  
  1060.  
  1061. <p>Some suggested forms of physical violence that a narcissist might choose and the reasons for those are,</p>
  1062.  
  1063.  
  1064.  
  1065. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  1066. <li><strong>Need for control</strong> &#8211; Narcissists have a strong need for control and dominance. When they forth see or grasp a loss of control, they might resort to violent behavior to regain control. </li>
  1067. </ul>
  1068.  
  1069.  
  1070.  
  1071. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  1072. <li><strong>Lack of Empathy</strong> &#8211; Narcissists lack empathy and are unable to understand or respond to another person&#8217;s pain or suffering. Thus, they might not hesitate to use physical violence to get what they want. </li>
  1073. </ul>
  1074.  
  1075.  
  1076.  
  1077. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  1078. <li><strong>Sense of entitlement </strong>&#8211; Narcissists have a sense of entitlement and believe that they deserve to get what they want, regardless of the cost to others. They might use physical violence to assert their entitlement over others. </li>
  1079. </ul>
  1080.  
  1081.  
  1082.  
  1083. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  1084. <li><strong>Threat to their self-esteem</strong> &#8211; Narcissists have fragile self-esteem and are highly sensitive to criticism or rejection. </li>
  1085. </ul>
  1086.  
  1087.  
  1088.  
  1089. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  1090. <li><strong>Impulsivity</strong> &#8211; Narcissists can be impulsive and act without considering the consequences. They might resort to physical violence in the heat of the moment, without thinking through the consequences. Overall, it is important to seek professional help if you or someone you know is experiencing physical or emotional abuse. </li>
  1091. </ul>
  1092.  
  1093.  
  1094. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1095. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/34.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-10141" width="191" height="148" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/34.jpeg 600w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/34-300x233.jpeg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 191px) 100vw, 191px" /></figure></div>
  1096.  
  1097.  
  1098. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">How to protect yourself from Physical Abuse?</h2>
  1099.  
  1100.  
  1101.  
  1102. <p>Some steps that one can take to protect themselves from physical abuse are mentioned here below, </p>
  1103.  
  1104.  
  1105.  
  1106. <p><strong>Recognizing the signs of physical abuse &#8211; <em>Physical abuse can include patterns of intimidation, isolation, physical restraint, physical aggression, and life endangerment. It is very important to acknowledge or recognize those patterns of abuse. </em></strong></p>
  1107.  
  1108.  
  1109.  
  1110. <p><strong>Setting clear boundaries</strong> &#8211; Make it clear to a potential abuser what behavior is acceptable and what behavior is not make sure they understand that physical violence will not be tolerated. </p>
  1111.  
  1112.  
  1113.  
  1114. <p><strong>Seek support from family and friends</strong> &#8211; Talk to someone you trust about your situation and ask for their support.</p>
  1115.  
  1116.  
  1117.  
  1118. <p><strong>Get a restraining order</strong> &#8211; If you feel that your safety is in danger, consider getting a restraining order to legally restrict the abuser from contacting you or being near you. </p>
  1119.  
  1120.  
  1121.  
  1122. <p><strong>Avoiding situations with potential abusers</strong> &#8211; If possible stay away from situations where you may be alone with someone who has a history of violence or has exhibited violent behavior. </p>
  1123.  
  1124.  
  1125.  
  1126. <p><strong>Always have a safety plan</strong> &#8211; Always have a plan in place that you can quickly act on if you feel you are in danger. </p>
  1127.  
  1128.  
  1129.  
  1130. <figure class="wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio"><div class="wp-block-embed__wrapper">
  1131. <div class="video-container"><iframe title="WHY DO NARCISSISTS WANT TO HURT YOU?" width="500" height="281" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/LnyCxN7FarM?feature=oembed&#038;wmode=opaque" frameborder="0" allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share" referrerpolicy="strict-origin-when-cross-origin" allowfullscreen></iframe></div>
  1132. </div></figure>
  1133.  
  1134.  
  1135.  
  1136. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Conclusion</h2>
  1137.  
  1138.  
  1139.  
  1140. <p>In conclusion, whether a narcissist will physically hurt you or not may vary from person to person. However, it is essential to recognize that all forms of abuse are not acceptable, and you deserve to be in a safe and loving relationship. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, seek help and talk to someone you trust. Remember that you are not alone and help is always available. </p>
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  1149. <title>How To Make A Narcissist Collapse? (Experimented)</title>
  1150. <link>https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-to-make-a-narcissist-collapse-experimented/</link>
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  1153. <dc:creator><![CDATA[Ella Carrillo]]></dc:creator>
  1154. <pubDate>Sat, 21 Dec 2024 00:19:24 +0000</pubDate>
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  1162. <p>How to make a Narcissist Collapse? What is Narcissistic Collapse? Let us know in detail further. </p>
  1163.  
  1164.  
  1165.  
  1166. <p>Living or dealing with narcissists might have come across you as one of the most difficult tasks in the world. And above all that what would happen when the narcissist stops receiving what they desire from you especially the validation and agreeableness in almost everything they do, wish and say?</p>
  1167.  
  1168.  
  1169.  
  1170. <p>Narcissists are totally rugged when it comes to receiving their daily dose of <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-long-can-a-narcissist-go-without-supply/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-long-can-a-narcissist-go-without-supply/">narcissistic supply</a>. And what happens when they do not receive their required validation, praise, exaggeration about their self-image, unfiltered admiration, ego boost, an agreeable nod from you, or just the consensus they are seeking from you. Narcissists admire superiority when it comes to their victims and a high sense of domination over them as compensation for their puny self-esteem. </p>
  1171.  
  1172.  
  1173. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1174. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/221.png" alt="" class="wp-image-6564" width="182" height="182" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/221.png 225w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/221-150x150.png 150w" sizes="(max-width: 182px) 100vw, 182px" /></figure></div>
  1175.  
  1176.  
  1177. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">What is Narcissistic Collapse?</h2>
  1178.  
  1179.  
  1180.  
  1181. <p>Narcissists are in constant need of admiration, validation, and entitlement. Also, they lack one of the most humanistic feelings or emotions of <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/are-narcissists-afraid-of-empaths-if-yes-why/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/are-narcissists-afraid-of-empaths-if-yes-why/">Empathy</a>. So when they do not receive the basics for their viability(admiration, validation, and entitlement) for them to function hassle-free, their obvious reaction is to get impulsive, lash out, and have abrupt and unexpected emotional damage. This is what is termed a Narcissistic Collapse, with reference to psychology. Also as the name suggests, emotional distress, or when a narcissist seems to fall apart emotionally is generally referred to as Narcissistic Collapse</p>
  1182.  
  1183.  
  1184.  
  1185. <p>They intend to be the center of attraction in all situations. They should be the elephant in the room all the time, are control freaks, are sly, mean, selfish, and much more. Most importantly Narcissists lack <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/are-narcissists-afraid-of-empaths-if-yes-why/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/are-narcissists-afraid-of-empaths-if-yes-why/">empathy</a> on many occasions until it affects them. Narcissists do know empathy, but they never tend to caring, understanding, and easygoing for others as they think vulnerability and being soft to others are negative traits that can be used against them.</p>
  1186.  
  1187.  
  1188.  
  1189. <p>Narcissistic collapse refers to a mental state in which a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder experiences a significant and sudden loss of self-worth or self-esteem. The person&#8217;s inflated sense of self-importance and grandiosity are shattered and they may also experience depression, shame, anxiety, and a feeling that they are unworthy or a sense of worthlessness. Narcissistic collapse or such a situation may arise when the individual experiences a significant failure, rejection or criticism. This may also happen due to certain losses like monetary loss or any significant loss. This situation can create emotional turmoil for the narcissist and they may go through a rough patch of sadness and distress. </p>
  1190.  
  1191.  
  1192.  
  1193. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">What causes Narcissistic Collapse?</h2>
  1194.  
  1195.  
  1196.  
  1197. <p>When a narcissist does not receive the required dose of validation, appreciation, and recognition which they feel they are entitled to, then this incident may cause them narcissistic injury resulting in narcissistic <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-rage-eyes-why-do-their-eyes-go-black-dark/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-rage-eyes-why-do-their-eyes-go-black-dark/">rage</a>. When this rage turns palpable it either converts into volatile, verbal, and physical aggression, anger outbursts, quarrels, and yelling, or a complete passive shutdown like stonewalling, remorse, resentment, <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-ignore-narcissists-silent-treatment/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-ignore-narcissists-silent-treatment/">ignorance</a>, and passive aggression.</p>
  1198.  
  1199.  
  1200.  
  1201. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">How to make a Narcissist Collapse?</h2>
  1202.  
  1203.  
  1204.  
  1205. <p>There are a few triggers that may threaten the narcissist&#8217;s grandiose image or would question their reality, which can be used to make a narcissist collapse. The triggers are mentioned below,</p>
  1206.  
  1207.  
  1208.  
  1209. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Saying no </h3>
  1210.  
  1211.  
  1212.  
  1213. <p>When a narcissist is denied something, they may become furious, manipulative, defensive, and also may become vengeful. They may also lash out with rage or would seek revenge whenever they might get a chance. They may devalue the person denying them to regain a sense of power or control. They may also try <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-know-that-they-are-gaslighting/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-know-that-they-are-gaslighting/">gaslighting</a> the other person. Overall denying a narcissist may cause a narcissistic injury as a narcissist might not have expected a no from the other person. Denying them may hurt their ego and pride.</p>
  1214.  
  1215.  
  1216.  
  1217. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Setting firm boundaries</h3>
  1218.  
  1219.  
  1220.  
  1221. <p>Narcissists tend to have a sense of entitlement and take advantage of other people&#8217;s weaknesses. Therefore they may always try to push other people&#8217;s boundaries and manipulate them. So if the other person is weak-willed then setting a boundary might not be a successful attempt to create a narcissistic collapse as a narcissist might hardy get affected by it and instead they may <a href="https://psychcentral.com/health/guilt-trip" data-type="URL" data-id="https://psychcentral.com/health/guilt-trip" target="_blank" rel="noopener">guilt-trip</a> you to push the boundaries. </p>
  1222.  
  1223.  
  1224.  
  1225. <p>But if you are a strong-willed person and can handle the narcissist firmly, then creating firm boundaries might really push a narcissist&#8217;s several buttons. They may first become fierce or wage a rage(anger) war. If still you stay unaffected, then next they may try to manipulate or guilt trip you. If you are still not ready to push your boundaries, they may finally give in and this may create a narcissistic collapse. </p>
  1226.  
  1227.  
  1228.  
  1229. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Taking your power or control back </h3>
  1230.  
  1231.  
  1232.  
  1233. <p>If a narcissist loses control of a situation or a person, it can trigger feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. Dealing with a narcissist is without a doubt one of the not-so-easy tasks to perform because it is totally unpredictable how potential they are to either change topics or totally predict different meanings to your statements. The personality disorder also makes it difficult for them to empathize with others, especially those around them. They may constantly be seeking admiration, validation, <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-lack-self-control/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-lack-self-control/">control</a>, and attention. </p>
  1234.  
  1235.  
  1236.  
  1237. <p>So when they do not get what they require, they tend to be manipulative and make those around them feel insignificant. Thus people around them generally start to lose their confidence, self-esteem, power, and authority. Narcissists can be unpredictable, <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" target="_blank" rel="noopener">manipulative</a>, abusive, authoritative, and controlling, but there are a few ways to communicate with them and also take your power and authority in the relationship back. Doing this might create a narcissistic collapse as a narcissist cannot bear losing their control and power.</p>
  1238.  
  1239.  
  1240.  
  1241. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Dismissing or correcting them </h3>
  1242.  
  1243.  
  1244.  
  1245. <p>When you correct the narcissist, they would not like it that someone is pointing out their mistake they would get <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-to-piss-off-a-narcissist-in-12-tested-easy-ways/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-to-piss-off-a-narcissist-in-12-tested-easy-ways/">pissed</a> or this demotivates them resulting in a narcissistic injury. The narcissist has an intimidating habit of making everyone listen to what they say. They consider that what they say is only of great importance and that other people lack the level of intelligence they have. </p>
  1246.  
  1247.  
  1248.  
  1249. <p>They have an opinion on every topic or every action of yours. They would badger you with their opinions and perspectives disregarding yours. So cutting them or dismissing their comments would just piss them and their reactions would be full of arrogance as their fragile ego would be hurt. </p>
  1250.  
  1251.  
  1252. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1253. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/6.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-10104" width="253" height="93" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/6.jpg 600w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/6-300x111.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 253px) 100vw, 253px" /></figure></div>
  1254.  
  1255.  
  1256. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Not responding to them immediately</h3>
  1257.  
  1258.  
  1259.  
  1260. <p>A negative reaction is an obvious reaction from a narcissist when you do something which is unpleasing for them. When you ignore a narcissist or their <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-play-text-games-to-trip-you-up/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-play-text-games-to-trip-you-up/">texts</a>, they might fake apologize if your relationship is just beginning, but if you have already been with them and there is another reason for you ignoring them, then expect negativity and negative reactions from them. When you fail to reply immediately or delay replying to them, that is when you have to face the unwanted trouble of them troubling you constantly. But if you constantly ignore their <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-does-a-narcissist-think-when-you-do-not-answer-their-text-messages/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-does-a-narcissist-think-when-you-do-not-answer-their-text-messages/">texts</a> or calls, this would hurt their pride thus creating a narcissistic injury, which can result in narcissistic injury. </p>
  1261.  
  1262.  
  1263.  
  1264. <p><strong>Some other triggers that may also create narcissistic collapse may include,</strong></p>
  1265.  
  1266.  
  1267.  
  1268. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  1269. <li>Getting constructive feedback which they may feel as criticism</li>
  1270.  
  1271.  
  1272.  
  1273. <li>Not getting a promotion</li>
  1274.  
  1275.  
  1276.  
  1277. <li>Being caught cheating on their partner</li>
  1278.  
  1279.  
  1280.  
  1281. <li>Not getting an expected raise</li>
  1282.  
  1283.  
  1284.  
  1285. <li>Expecting changes in the relationship</li>
  1286.  
  1287.  
  1288.  
  1289. <li>Their advice being ignored or rejected</li>
  1290.  
  1291.  
  1292.  
  1293. <li>Their partner leaving them</li>
  1294. </ul>
  1295.  
  1296.  
  1297.  
  1298. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Signs of Narcissistic Collapse</h2>
  1299.  
  1300.  
  1301.  
  1302. <p>These signs may be observed in both covert and overt narcissism respectively. </p>
  1303.  
  1304.  
  1305.  
  1306. <p><strong>Agitation and restlessness</strong> &#8211; Narcissists may become increasingly agitated and restless as their facade begins to crumble.</p>
  1307.  
  1308.  
  1309.  
  1310. <p><strong>Irritability and anger</strong> &#8211; As the narcissist&#8217;s made-up world begins to fall down, they may become even more irritable and angry.</p>
  1311.  
  1312.  
  1313.  
  1314. <p><strong>Anxiety and Depression</strong> &#8211; Narcissists may experience anxiety and depression as they struggle to maintain their sense of superiority.</p>
  1315.  
  1316.  
  1317.  
  1318. <p><strong>Loss of interest in activities</strong> &#8211; As their so-called made-up world seems falling apart, narcissists begin to lose their interest even in the most basic and daily household activities or any activity that they previously enjoyed. They are unable to perform even the simplest of the day-to-day chores efficiently when they go through the collapse phase. </p>
  1319.  
  1320.  
  1321.  
  1322. <p><strong>Escalating substance abuse</strong> &#8211; Narcissists may resort to means like drugs, alcohol, or any kind of addiction. They may escalate their substance abuse to cope with the feelings of inadequacy that follows along with the collapse phase. </p>
  1323.  
  1324.  
  1325.  
  1326. <p><strong>Decreased work performance</strong> &#8211; The narcissist&#8217;s preoccupation with their own problems may lead to a decreased work performance and thus may result in a declined promotion or irregularity of work opportunities.  </p>
  1327.  
  1328.  
  1329.  
  1330. <p><strong>Thoughts leading to self-harm</strong> &#8211; In some cases, the collapse of a narcissist&#8217;s world can lead to thoughts of suicide or self-harm. </p>
  1331.  
  1332.  
  1333.  
  1334. <p><strong>Delusions</strong> &#8211; As their shiny facade starts diminishing, narcissists may become increasingly delusional. </p>
  1335.  
  1336.  
  1337.  
  1338. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Narcissistic Collapse Forms</h2>
  1339.  
  1340.  
  1341. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1342. <figure class="aligncenter size-large is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/220-1024x683.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-6565" width="206" height="138" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/220-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/220-300x200.jpg 300w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/220-768x512.jpg 768w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/220.jpg 1170w" sizes="(max-width: 206px) 100vw, 206px" /></figure></div>
  1343.  
  1344.  
  1345. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Withdrawal</h3>
  1346.  
  1347.  
  1348.  
  1349. <p>The most common reaction of an individual who is not prone to creating loud or aggravated is withdrawal while facing any difficulty. Withdrawal is more relatable to the <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/weird-things-that-covert-narcissists-do/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/weird-things-that-covert-narcissists-do/">covert</a> or shy type of narcissistic personality. While the sign of narcissistic collapse among overt narcissistic personalities would include a loud and outrageous reaction rather than a silent withdrawal. </p>
  1350.  
  1351.  
  1352.  
  1353. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Gaslighting</h3>
  1354.  
  1355.  
  1356.  
  1357. <p>Abusers; especially people suffering from personality disorders like narcissism, tend to gaslight their victims while suffering through narcissistic collapse. For example, narcissists might gaslight you and make you believe that you are the cause of their suffering. Whereas in reality, they would be tricking you, manipulating you, and abusing you to do so. They would be the root cause of your problems but instead, they would make you believe the vice versa. </p>
  1358.  
  1359.  
  1360. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1361. <figure class="aligncenter size-large is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/219-1024x1024.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-6566" width="183" height="183" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/219-1024x1024.jpeg 1024w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/219-300x300.jpeg 300w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/219-150x150.jpeg 150w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/219-768x768.jpeg 768w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/219.jpeg 1280w" sizes="(max-width: 183px) 100vw, 183px" /></figure></div>
  1362.  
  1363.  
  1364. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Mental Breakdown</h3>
  1365.  
  1366.  
  1367.  
  1368. <p>When a narcissist is going through the collapse phase, they may have a mental breakdown which may make them feel isolated and disinterested in everything and everyone around them, pulling themselves back from performing even the basic daily chores, feeling left out, unable to make decisions or even provide a viable reply to a question. They may also be having outbursts of <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-rage-eyes-why-do-their-eyes-go-black-dark/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-rage-eyes-why-do-their-eyes-go-black-dark/">rage</a>, emotions, fear, crying, and feeling helpless.</p>
  1369.  
  1370.  
  1371.  
  1372. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Impulsive Reactions</h3>
  1373.  
  1374.  
  1375.  
  1376. <p>Narcissists may be perceived already as impulsive individuals they make many decisions that may result in short-term gains and long-term harm. They make many decisions in haste and without giving much thought just to impress or appeal to others with their decisions. An individual who is suffering from narcissistic collapse may provide many impulsive and thoughtless reactions like rage outbursts, excessive shopping, or buying unnecessary things, binge eating, crossing the street without paying much attention, rash driving, and many more.</p>
  1377.  
  1378.  
  1379.  
  1380. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Excessive Complaining</h3>
  1381.  
  1382.  
  1383.  
  1384. <p>Everything at one point starts seeming unfair to the narcissist. This is one more sign of narcissistic personality disorder.  Their complaints would be never-ending just like their abuse. During the narcissistic collapse phase, the narcissist would become extra irritating, would have hatred, and also would loathe the circumstances more than ever. </p>
  1385.  
  1386.  
  1387.  
  1388. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Depression </h3>
  1389.  
  1390.  
  1391.  
  1392. <p>Depression is more relatable to the <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/weird-things-that-covert-narcissists-do/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/weird-things-that-covert-narcissists-do/">covert</a> or shy type of narcissistic personality. Many covert narcissists face depression while going through a collapse phase. Overt narcissists would not opt for such reactions or have depression. Their go-to reaction is having a rage outburst or just lashing out at people without any specific reason. </p>
  1393.  
  1394.  
  1395.  
  1396. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Can a narcissist recover from the collapse? &#8211; What to expect from a narcissist after the collapse?</h2>
  1397.  
  1398.  
  1399.  
  1400. <p>Narcissists have their own fantasy world, where they are the kings or queens of their made-up reality. They live in their world of entitlement which boosts their ego and also they treat you the way they do- manipulative, toxic, and negative. </p>
  1401.  
  1402.  
  1403.  
  1404. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">So can a narcissist recover from the narcissistic collapse?</h3>
  1405.  
  1406.  
  1407.  
  1408. <p>As the saying goes, &#8220;<em>Every cloud has a silver lining</em>&#8220;, in the same way, there is hope and possibility of changes and chances for everyone. Narccicsts are humans after all and every human is capable of changing, <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/signs-you-are-healing-from-narcissistic-abuse/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/signs-you-are-healing-from-narcissistic-abuse/">healing</a>, being a better version of themselves, and living a happier life.</p>
  1409.  
  1410.  
  1411.  
  1412. <p>So, Yes! there s a chance that a narcissist can <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/signs-you-are-healing-from-narcissistic-abuse/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/signs-you-are-healing-from-narcissistic-abuse/">recover</a> from collapse but only if they truly wish and desire to. With the help of their loved ones even a mental disorder, can be treated though not cured completely. Therapy is the best option for treating or at least dealing smoothly with a mental disorder like narcissism. All you need is patience, care, and understanding for people to heal from their narcissistic personality to a better and positive version of themselves. </p>
  1413.  
  1414.  
  1415.  
  1416. <figure class="wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio"><div class="wp-block-embed__wrapper">
  1417. <div class="video-container"><iframe title="WHAT CAUSES NARCISSISTIC COLLAPSE?" width="500" height="281" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/IFy-KlZPQ5g?start=5&#038;feature=oembed&#038;wmode=opaque" frameborder="0" allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share" referrerpolicy="strict-origin-when-cross-origin" allowfullscreen></iframe></div>
  1418. </div></figure>
  1419.  
  1420.  
  1421.  
  1422. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">In Conclusion</h2>
  1423.  
  1424.  
  1425.  
  1426. <p>A narcissistic collapse occurs when a person with narcissistic traits experiences a significant blow to their self-esteem and sense of self-worth. The collapse can be triggered by various events such as loss of status, relationship breakdown, failure in achieving goals, and so on. Narcissistic collapse refers to a mental state in which a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder experiences a significant and sudden loss of self-worth or self-esteem. </p>
  1427.  
  1428.  
  1429.  
  1430. <p>The person&#8217;s inflated sense of self-importance and grandiosity are shattered and they may also experience depression, shame, anxiety, and a feeling that they are unworthy or a sense of worthlessness. Narcissistic collapse or such a situation may arise when the individual experiences a significant failure, rejection or criticism. This may also happen due to certain losses like monetary loss or any significant loss. This situation can create emotional turmoil for the narcissist and they may go through a rough patch of sadness and distress. </p>
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  1439. <title>What Happens When You Stand Up to a Narcissist? (Experimented)</title>
  1440. <link>https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-stand-up-to-a-narcissist/</link>
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  1443. <dc:creator><![CDATA[Ella Carrillo]]></dc:creator>
  1444. <pubDate>Fri, 20 Dec 2024 17:00:21 +0000</pubDate>
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  1452. <p>What happens when you Stand Up to a Narcissist? Standing up against a narcissist comes with its own pros and cons. It can have both positive and negative consequences. Managing and maintaining a relationship with someone with a personality disorder can be difficult in itself, and it becomes even more difficult when you have to deal with the confrontation and stand up for yourself. </p>
  1453.  
  1454.  
  1455. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1456. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/133.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-10058" width="172" height="137" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/133.jpg 488w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/133-300x239.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 172px) 100vw, 172px" /></figure></div>
  1457.  
  1458.  
  1459. <p>There are no specific personality traits that can claim or make a narcissistic, but a few characteristics that can be associated with narcissism that makes the relationship feel one-sided, are as follows,</p>
  1460.  
  1461.  
  1462.  
  1463. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  1464. <li>Need for excessive admiration or adoration</li>
  1465.  
  1466.  
  1467.  
  1468. <li>Manipulative behavior</li>
  1469.  
  1470.  
  1471.  
  1472. <li>Grandiose sense of self-obsession or self-importance</li>
  1473.  
  1474.  
  1475.  
  1476. <li>A belief that they are special, unique, and more entitled than others</li>
  1477.  
  1478.  
  1479.  
  1480. <li>Exploiting other people, including their loved ones, to achieve what they wish or desire.</li>
  1481.  
  1482.  
  1483.  
  1484. <li>Lack of empathy</li>
  1485.  
  1486.  
  1487.  
  1488. <li>Preoccupation with fantasies of power, success, beauty, and desirability </li>
  1489. </ul>
  1490.  
  1491.  
  1492.  
  1493. <p>A Narcissistic relationship can often feel emotionally draining and suffocating. Narcissistic partners often exhibit a lack of empathy, constantly seek attention and adoration from them, manipulate them easily for fulfilling their desires, can be mean when you try to put a point forward which may be against them, and may also wage a <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-rage-eyes-why-do-their-eyes-go-black-dark/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-rage-eyes-why-do-their-eyes-go-black-dark/">rage</a>(anger) war when you try to confront them. </p>
  1494.  
  1495.  
  1496.  
  1497. <p>The relationship may feel one-sided, with the narcissistic partner always needing to be in <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-lack-self-control/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-lack-self-control/">control</a> and the center of attraction in all matters. Their behavior may be emotionally abusive at times, leaving their partner feeling anxious, perplexed, and unfulfilled. On and all a narcissistic relationship may constantly feel like a conflict, <a href="https://psychcentral.com/blog/recovering-narcissist/2017/08/11-signs-youre-the-victim-of-narcissistic-abuse#1" data-type="URL" data-id="https://psychcentral.com/blog/recovering-narcissist/2017/08/11-signs-youre-the-victim-of-narcissistic-abuse#1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">abusive</a>, and a struggle to seek validation, attention, stability, and balance. </p>
  1498.  
  1499.  
  1500.  
  1501. <p>Narcissists are so demanding, and it is very stressful to be around them. When you are new to the world of dating a narcissist or being committed to them, you are merely adjusting or struggling to find yourself comfortable around them. As in the initial stages, you do not know why a person behaves so or if such behavior is normal. It becomes strenuous to continue the relationship in such a manner, as narcissists are so difficult to handle.</p>
  1502.  
  1503.  
  1504.  
  1505. <p>A narcissistic individual can be defined as someone who easily takes advantage of other people&#8217;s liberality, amplitude, righteousness, and gullibility, someone who is a moocher, and someone who would not think twice before using someone as their trump card without feeling grateful, or returning the favor or even being thankful for someone&#8217;s generosity. </p>
  1506.  
  1507.  
  1508.  
  1509. <p>A narcissist is an incorrigible person who is not able to acknowledge their own mistakes and considers themselves spotless and perfect. They try to be perfectionists and idealists and claim veneration. They adore only themselves and think that no one can love them more than themselves so they do not consider or even try to appreciate your feelings. They do not reciprocate your love and care. They run after materialistic pleasures rather than enjoying the company of their partner fully.</p>
  1510.  
  1511.  
  1512.  
  1513. <p>Narcissists are well aware of where they lack, where they are not fond of the way they act or do not like themselves at many times but never admit it. Instead, they would reciprocate all the hate toward the people near them or involved in their life. They would never show their weak spots as they have a strong defense mechanism and they would never admit that they are wrong. So they have troubled relationships as they are unable to convey your feelings with the same intensity as you do it.</p>
  1514.  
  1515.  
  1516.  
  1517. <p>A Narcissist is an individual who is excessively obsessed to have control over all situations in their life, control over all individuals and their behavior, and also expects everyone around the to focus just on them. They intend to be the center of attraction in all situations. A Narcissist person craves attention all the time, lacks care and empathy, can be rude and blunt, ignores other people&#8217;s feelings, and has troubled relationships. </p>
  1518.  
  1519.  
  1520.  
  1521. <figure class="wp-block-pullquote has-accent-color has-text-color"><blockquote><p><strong>Is it a good idea to stand up against a narcissist?</strong></p><cite>You should always keep in mind that confronting a narcissist can always put you in a tough position. &#8220;Confronting a narcissist would be like fighting a battle of wills.&#8221; But being strong and standing up for yourself holds greater importance than simply dealing with a narcissist after a confrontation. </cite></blockquote></figure>
  1522.  
  1523.  
  1524.  
  1525. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">What happens when you stand up to a Narcissist?</h2>
  1526.  
  1527.  
  1528.  
  1529. <p>If you have ever had to deal with a narcissistic person, you might have noticed that they tend to dominate conversations and make things all about themselves. They might talk over you, or criticize you for speaking your mind. This can be incredibly frustrating, and it may feel like there is no way to get through to them. </p>
  1530.  
  1531.  
  1532.  
  1533. <p>When you stand up to a narcissist, something interesting happens. They may react defensively, but they also may start to pay attention to you and take you seriously. This is because narcissistic people thrive on attention and validation, and when you confront them, they may realize that they are not getting the admiration and validation they crave from you. </p>
  1534.  
  1535.  
  1536. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1537. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/120.png" alt="" class="wp-image-2044" width="123" height="123" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/120.png 200w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/120-150x150.png 150w" sizes="(max-width: 123px) 100vw, 123px" /></figure></div>
  1538.  
  1539.  
  1540. <p>There are a few plausible reactions that you may receive from a narcissist when you try to stand up against them which are mentioned below, </p>
  1541.  
  1542.  
  1543.  
  1544. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">They would try to manipulate you by persuasive convincing to distort your attention</h3>
  1545.  
  1546.  
  1547.  
  1548. <p>Narcissists are smooth talkers and they can easily manipulate you with their nicely woven words and promises. <strong>A narcissist would be extremely charming and would only mirror the words that you might want to hear at the moment and would justify your accusation against them. </strong>This might create confusion for you as you would feel, you are extremely loved at the moment and might want to consider your accusation. But do not get flattered by their sweet words because they would just be temporary. </p>
  1549.  
  1550.  
  1551.  
  1552. <p>Narcissists would use flattery and <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-is-narcissistic-mirroring-red-flags-by-narcissist/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-is-narcissistic-mirroring-red-flags-by-narcissist/">mirroring techniques</a> for deceiving you, hide their true personality and intentions behind the mirrored image, distort your attention from reality, and continue obtaining their supply. Narcissists may even succeed for once in their little trick of distorting reality but keep in mind that a narcissist tends to make lies once they gain your trust.</p>
  1553.  
  1554.  
  1555.  
  1556. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">They manipulate you with projections</h3>
  1557.  
  1558.  
  1559.  
  1560. <p>Projection means a justification of one&#8217;s action by accusing or pointing fingers at others. It is a reaction or a repulse action that is an outcome of one&#8217;s guilt, wrongdoing, or something that one is not proud of in particular or is not ready to accept or reflect on self. This makes it easy to deal with a difficult situation, without much remorse. </p>
  1561.  
  1562.  
  1563.  
  1564. <p>Narcissistic projections are like their hidden superpower according to them. They use it out of nowhere and leave you perplexed. They use these projections as a defense mechanism when they feel they would be exposed or their grandiose image is being questioned or tarnished. </p>
  1565.  
  1566.  
  1567.  
  1568. <p><strong>When something you said <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/why-do-narcissists-get-jealous/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/why-do-narcissists-get-jealous/">triggers</a> a narcissist or points out their wrongdoing; they cannot take this in any circumstances.</strong> Remember that they do not take criticism well. They would be all hyped up and agitated to provide a counter-argument that satisfies their ego and proves that they are right and have been wrongly pointed at. So until they transfer all blame on you they would not stop their narcissistic projections. You can be the victim of narcissistic projections on multiple instances wherever you try to prove a narcissist wrong or challenge their toxic personality. </p>
  1569.  
  1570.  
  1571. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1572. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/42.jpg" alt="How To Tell A Narcissist That They Are Narcissists? (Without Making The Situation Worse)" class="wp-image-8036" width="190" height="190" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/42.jpg 416w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/42-300x300.jpg 300w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/42-150x150.jpg 150w" sizes="(max-width: 190px) 100vw, 190px" /></figure></div>
  1573.  
  1574.  
  1575. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">You would face their rage</h3>
  1576.  
  1577.  
  1578.  
  1579. <p><strong>The first and foremost reaction of a narcissist to any inconvenience caused by others is anger, <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-rage-eyes-why-do-their-eyes-go-black-dark/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-rage-eyes-why-do-their-eyes-go-black-dark/">rage</a>, or wrath.</strong> If you have been with a narcissist you might be aware of their anger issues. They feel more agitated than usual when you ask them to reflect upon the exposure. They would be harsh with their words. They would try to hurt you emotionally. </p>
  1580.  
  1581.  
  1582.  
  1583. <p>They might even try to <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-is-a-narcissistic-projection/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-is-a-narcissistic-projection/">project</a> the confrontation toward you. They may also state that the problem might be with you and not them. They may state that they are perfectly fine with perfect mental health. They might even call you names or use abusive vocabulary when you expose their truth but do not get disheartened or terrified by their rage, as it is their go-to tactic to outburst their rage on you.</p>
  1584.  
  1585.  
  1586.  
  1587. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">They would try to distort the reality of the situation</h3>
  1588.  
  1589.  
  1590.  
  1591. <p>Narcissists would be so perplexed about the whole situation that they would jump onto immediate solutions which include distorting and denying the whole truth and reality of the situation. They would try to reverse the situation and play the victim.</p>
  1592.  
  1593.  
  1594.  
  1595. <p>They would go into denial mode and would not accept the truth. They would create many false facades of lies just to hide that one truth. Hiding the reality of the situation becomes their top priority at that moment. They might also play the victim here, and accuse you of false accusations. They might <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-know-that-they-are-gaslighting/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-know-that-they-are-gaslighting/">gaslight</a> you and make you doubt your sanity.</p>
  1596.  
  1597.  
  1598. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1599. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/119.png" alt="" class="wp-image-2042" width="189" height="133" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/119.png 750w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/119-300x212.png 300w" sizes="(max-width: 189px) 100vw, 189px" /></figure></div>
  1600.  
  1601.  
  1602. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Is it a good idea to stand up against a narcissist?</h2>
  1603.  
  1604.  
  1605.  
  1606. <p>If you want to <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-do-narcissists-end-relationships/">end things</a> or if you are really done or annoyed with the narcissist then you may choose to confront their toxic behavior or any other trait that bothers you. But if you plan to continue the relationship standing up may cause you some discomfort in the relationship as the narcissist thinks that their behavior is perfect and the idea of you standing against them gives them an opportunity to be even nastier than their usual selves and this it may not be a good idea. </p>
  1607.  
  1608.  
  1609.  
  1610. <p><strong><em>Though you should always keep in mind that <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-confront-a-narcissist-with-the-truth/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-confront-a-narcissist-with-the-truth/">confronting</a> a narcissist can always put you in a tough position. &#8220;Confronting a narcissist would be like fighting a battle of wills.&#8221; But being strong and standing up for yourself holds greater importance than simply dealing with a narcissist after a confrontation. </em></strong></p>
  1611.  
  1612.  
  1613.  
  1614. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">How do you stand up for yourself?</h2>
  1615.  
  1616.  
  1617. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1618. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/134.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-10061" width="298" height="124" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/134.jpg 456w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/134-300x125.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 298px) 100vw, 298px" /></figure></div>
  1619.  
  1620.  
  1621. <p><strong>Believe in yourself </strong>&#8211; When dealing with a narcissist and when you choose to stand up for yourself then the first thing here is to have faith in yourself because the first thing a narcissist might try to hurt is your pride and break your faith by <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" target="_blank" rel="noopener">manipulating</a> you. </p>
  1622.  
  1623.  
  1624.  
  1625. <p><strong>Identify the problem precisely</strong> &#8211; Figuring out what is wrong or what behavior feels wrong in the relationship and what solution is required for that issue as such behavior would no longer be acceptable, becomes the next step.</p>
  1626.  
  1627.  
  1628.  
  1629. <p><strong>Using assertive language</strong> &#8211; Using firm but not aggressive language to convey your point is important. </p>
  1630.  
  1631.  
  1632.  
  1633. <p><strong>Setting Boundaries</strong> &#8211; Being clear about your expectations and boundaries is equally important and do not allow anyone to cross those boundaries set by you.</p>
  1634.  
  1635.  
  1636.  
  1637. <p><strong>Practicing Self-care</strong> &#8211; Take care of yourself mentally and physically and do not hesitate to seek professional help if you are struggling. </p>
  1638.  
  1639.  
  1640.  
  1641. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Things to keep in mind while standing up against a Narcissist</h2>
  1642.  
  1643.  
  1644.  
  1645. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  1646. <li>Staying calm while standing up against a narcissist as this can make a big difference while dealing with them, as they would be more agitated at that time as their truth has been unplugged.</li>
  1647.  
  1648.  
  1649.  
  1650. <li>Not using harsh words, in the form of a defense mechanism as words can ignite their rage.</li>
  1651.  
  1652.  
  1653.  
  1654. <li>Creating clear boundaries. This can make a Narcissist angry at first but can make a huge difference later.</li>
  1655.  
  1656.  
  1657.  
  1658. <li>Knowing more about Narcissism can make it easy to deal with a Narcissist and their real personalities.</li>
  1659.  
  1660.  
  1661.  
  1662. <li>Speaking up for oneself may affect the relationship with a Narcissist in the current scenario, but can ease up the conversations for later reference.</li>
  1663.  
  1664.  
  1665.  
  1666. <li>Avoid attacking their character. Narcissists have fragile egos and can be very defensive, so it is important to focus on their behavior rather than their character or personality. </li>
  1667.  
  1668.  
  1669.  
  1670. <li>Prepare for retaliation. Narcissists are really bad at taking criticism and ma may not act kindly when you stand up for yourself. So it becomes important to prepare yourself for any potential negative consequences. </li>
  1671.  
  1672.  
  1673.  
  1674. <li>Also, remember <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-rage-eyes-why-do-their-eyes-go-black-dark/">narcissists would be agile in showing their rage</a> as they have been exposed so you might not want to add more to that, just ignore them to maintain your peace. </li>
  1675. </ul>
  1676.  
  1677.  
  1678.  
  1679. <figure class="wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio"><div class="wp-block-embed__wrapper">
  1680. <div class="video-container"><iframe title="Should You Stand Up To Narcissists For Dignity, Confidence And Self-Respect." width="500" height="281" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/8mVt9W-61kY?feature=oembed&#038;wmode=opaque" frameborder="0" allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share" referrerpolicy="strict-origin-when-cross-origin" allowfullscreen></iframe></div>
  1681. </div></figure>
  1682.  
  1683.  
  1684.  
  1685. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Inferences </h2>
  1686.  
  1687.  
  1688.  
  1689. <p>You should always keep in mind that <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-confront-a-narcissist-with-the-truth/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-confront-a-narcissist-with-the-truth/">confronting</a> a narcissist can always put you in a tough position. &#8220;Confronting a narcissist would be like fighting a battle of wills.&#8221; But being strong and standing up for yourself holds greater importance than simply dealing with a narcissist after a confrontation. </p>
  1690.  
  1691.  
  1692.  
  1693. <p>Standing up to a narcissist can be a powerful way to confront the toxic behavior that you have been putting up with patience till now. This can be a power move to demand respect. While it may not be an easy task and also it comes with its own risks. Standing up against a narcissist comes with its own pros and cons. It can have both positive and negative consequences.</p>
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  1702. <title>How to Safely End Your Relationship with A Narcissist Or Partner?</title>
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  1706. <dc:creator><![CDATA[Ella Carrillo]]></dc:creator>
  1707. <pubDate>Fri, 20 Dec 2024 08:48:14 +0000</pubDate>
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  1715. <p>How to safely end your Relationship with a Narcissist or Partner? Thinking about breaking up with a narcissist, but worried about the consequences? Then you have arrived at the correct destination as this article is all about knowing a few ideas regarding the topic, &#8220;How to safely end your Relationship with a Narcissist or Partner? In order to know more please keep reading further through the article. </p>
  1716.  
  1717.  
  1718. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1719. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/73.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-10025" width="160" height="120" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/73.jpeg 474w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/73-300x225.jpeg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 160px) 100vw, 160px" /></figure></div>
  1720.  
  1721.  
  1722. <p>Breaking up with a narcissist can be extremely tough, nerve-wracking, and emotionally draining. If you are in a toxic relationship where your partner is a narcissist, then it becomes extremely important to prioritize your own emotional and mental well-being. Breaking up with a narcissist can be challenging as they often try to manipulate or <a href="https://psychcentral.com/health/guilt-trip" data-type="URL" data-id="https://psychcentral.com/health/guilt-trip" target="_blank" rel="noopener">guilt-trip</a> their partner into staying. So it becomes extremely important to have a thorough break up with a narcissist with a proper closure. </p>
  1723.  
  1724.  
  1725.  
  1726. <p>Narcissists tend to have a hold over situations, people (relationships), and most of the parts of their life happenings. They tend to be the elephant in the room with their controlling personalities, abusive nature, and urge to gain the maximum from everyone. Dating a narcissist is very puzzling as you cannot figure at what stage you are at while dating them. You cannot put all pieces of a puzzle together while dating a narcissist as their <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/the-reaction-of-a-narcissist-when-he-she-sees-you-cry/">behavior</a> is different every time you try to approach them. </p>
  1727.  
  1728.  
  1729.  
  1730. <p>When someone breaks up with a narcissist, the narcissist may try to manipulate the situation to make the other person feel guilty and can also forcefully convince them to change their minds. Narcissists can try to gaslight, manipulate or change their partner&#8217;s thought process and also convince them to continue the abusive relationship. </p>
  1731.  
  1732.  
  1733. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1734. <figure class="aligncenter size-full"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="128" height="128" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/116.png" alt="" class="wp-image-1881"/></figure></div>
  1735.  
  1736.  
  1737. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">How to safely end your Relationship with a Narcissist or Partner? </h2>
  1738.  
  1739.  
  1740.  
  1741. <p>Breaking up or ending things with a narcissist might include chaos, a lot of <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" target="_blank" rel="noopener">manipulation</a>, and criticism, and ultimately it can be a pretty tricky process. So to retain your peace of mind, here are a few successful ways to end things that can also save you a lot of time, drama, and manipulation. So here are a few simple ways to break up with a narcissist safely. </p>
  1742.  
  1743.  
  1744.  
  1745. <p>Ending a relationship with a narcissist can be a challenging process that requires planning and caution. Narcissistic individuals often exhibit toxic behavior such as <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-know-that-they-are-gaslighting/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-know-that-they-are-gaslighting/">gaslighting</a>, manipulation, emotional abuse, and everlasting trauma, which can make it difficult for their partners to leave. Therefore it becomes extremely important to leave the relationship safely and plan a careful exit from the toxic relationship. For doing this it requires proper planning along with the ways that help you prioritize your own emotional, mental, and physical well-being. </p>
  1746.  
  1747.  
  1748.  
  1749. <p>Here are some tips on how to end a relationship with a narcissist safely;</p>
  1750.  
  1751.  
  1752.  
  1753. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Knowing more about Narcissism by educating yourself on the same</h3>
  1754.  
  1755.  
  1756.  
  1757. <p>The first step to ending a relationship with a narcissist safely is to educate yourself about the mental health disorder, &#8220;Narcissistic Personality Disorder&#8221;. Knowing more about Narcissism can help you understand your NPD individuals or anybody with NPD(Narcissistic Personality Disorder) better. This is the best and utmost way to <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-to-piss-off-a-narcissist-in-12-tested-easy-ways/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-to-piss-off-a-narcissist-in-12-tested-easy-ways/">cope</a> with a narcissistic person. This way you can find ways to deal with a narcissist while you wish to break up. </p>
  1758.  
  1759.  
  1760.  
  1761. <p>Reading articles, <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-are-some-self-help-books-for-narcissists/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-are-some-self-help-books-for-narcissists/">books</a>, blogs or any piece of article that is relatable to narcissism can help in learning and framing the strategies that would help in the process of breaking up with a narcissist. Knowing more about narcissism will help you to recognize their abuse pattern, their behavioral tactics, and their next move. By doing this you can avoid being caught up in the cycle of abuse and manipulation once again. </p>
  1762.  
  1763.  
  1764. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1765. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/62.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-10027" width="111" height="167" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/62.jpeg 333w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/62-200x300.jpeg 200w" sizes="(max-width: 111px) 100vw, 111px" /></figure></div>
  1766.  
  1767.  
  1768. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Plan and prepare your exit well and in advanced</h3>
  1769.  
  1770.  
  1771.  
  1772. <p>Prepping up a little in advance always makes the work easier and this also applies to breaking up. Try making a draft of what you have to say to them before approaching the narcissist regarding the breakup. Also, you can seek help from the internet for what you have to say or even consult a friend. Also, go through the draft thoroughly before finally approaching the narcissist to avoid any misunderstandings or misjudgments. To make the breakup less intense, try not to include unnecessary information just because you are in an emotionally hurt phase. This might simply prove that you may still need the narcissist, and the narcissist might not leave any chance to get <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/will-a-narcissist-ever-leave-you-alone-if-no-why/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/will-a-narcissist-ever-leave-you-alone-if-no-why/">back together with you</a>. </p>
  1773.  
  1774.  
  1775.  
  1776. <p>Before initiating the breakup plan with your narcissistic partner, it becomes essential to have a well-thought and carefully crafted plan. This plan should consider your safety and your possessions. The plan should be practically possible with fathomable steps. The plan should also include managing a safe stay, with ways to protect important documents and financial condition. Also, one important point here is, to keep your plan as discreet as possible because if a narcissist finds out then your plan would cease to exist even. Make sure at least your trusted people like friends and family know about this plan and do not hesitate to involve them in the plan if you feel so. </p>
  1777.  
  1778.  
  1779.  
  1780. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Focus on the &#8220;Whys&#8221; or the reasons for breaking up</h3>
  1781.  
  1782.  
  1783.  
  1784. <p>Before you break up with a narcissist, it is important to prepare yourself well in advance. You must initiate the breakup with a clear understanding of the whys and whats of the breakup process. Understand thoroughly all the reasons and consequences of breaking up with the narcissist. This step is very important because if you do not fully understand your reasons for <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-does-a-narcissist-just-replace-you-so-easily/">breaking up</a>, a narcissist will try to talk you out of it or manipulate you into staying. So take some time to reflect on the relationship and make a list of all the reasons why it is not working out.</p>
  1785.  
  1786.  
  1787.  
  1788. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Set Boundaries </h3>
  1789.  
  1790.  
  1791.  
  1792. <p>Another important step in dealing with a narcissist while breaking up is to set up clear and firm boundaries. This means being clear about what you will and will not tolerate from the narcissist. It is important to communicate these boundaries clearly, both verbally and in writing, and to stick to them consistently. </p>
  1793.  
  1794.  
  1795.  
  1796. <p>The first step is taking your <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/ways-to-talk-to-a-narcissist-and-take-your-power-back/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/ways-to-talk-to-a-narcissist-and-take-your-power-back/">power</a> back by setting boundaries. Narcissists can be demanding and take up a lot of your time and energy. Setting boundaries helps you protect your time, space, and mental health. Setting boundaries means defining what sort of behaviors are acceptable, and what actions are not acceptable, and making it clear what all practices are acceptable and unacceptable. Narcissists tend to cross boundaries frequently. Being firm and assertive about your limits and holding them accountable if they violate them is also one of the best to set boundaries. You can save yourself from the narcissist blaming you to be a narcissist by holding up your guard by making firm boundaries. </p>
  1797.  
  1798.  
  1799. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1800. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/87.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-1879" width="194" height="136"/></figure></div>
  1801.  
  1802.  
  1803. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Be prepared to face Escalation in their manipulative behavior  </h3>
  1804.  
  1805.  
  1806.  
  1807. <p>When you try to leave a narcissist, they may escalate their manipulative behavior and try to drag you on a guilt trip to make you stay with them. They may try to scare you by telling all tell tales and stories of a future where they are not with you and how difficult it can be. But in reality, do not be afraid to leave them as those scenes and stories that they try to use to manipulate are actually all vague and your future would definitely be better without them. </p>
  1808.  
  1809.  
  1810.  
  1811. <p>They may also choose <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-lack-self-control/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-lack-self-control/">anger</a> and frustration to frighten you. And this is the reason why it becomes crucial to have a solid support system in place, which may include family members, friends, therapists, or anyone you could trust with. Having a strong support system may save you from all the manipulation that a narcissist might use to make you stay longer. </p>
  1812.  
  1813.  
  1814.  
  1815. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Be clear and firm about your decision </h3>
  1816.  
  1817.  
  1818.  
  1819. <p>When you decide to break up with your narcissistic partner, be clear and firm in your decision. Do not sugarcoat things or leave room for any doubt. Make it very very clear to the narcissist and also to yourself that the relationship is indeed over and try to move on as soon as possible. Try to avoid getting into arguments or engaging in long discussions about your reasons for leaving. Stay focused on your goals, and do not let your partner manipulate the situation. </p>
  1820.  
  1821.  
  1822.  
  1823. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Staying calm and composed </h3>
  1824.  
  1825.  
  1826.  
  1827. <p>Break-ups can be difficult and may also include emotional turmoil and drama. Narcissists always wish to provoke a reaction out of you, so refusing to engage in an argument or <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-confront-a-narcissist-with-the-truth/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-you-confront-a-narcissist-with-the-truth/">confrontation</a> can be an effective way to avoid giving them attention. Not engaging in any kind of drama, arguments, discussions or disagreements may subtle down the situation. Responding in a non-emotional and calm way and showing them that their behavior is not going to affect you, may save you from all the drama and trauma. </p>
  1828.  
  1829.  
  1830.  
  1831. <p>Before reacting to anything, take a deep breath and try to calm yourself down. This will give you time to think and respond rather than reacting impulsively. </p>
  1832.  
  1833.  
  1834.  
  1835. <p>Narcissists have a knack for provoking people and drawing them into a defensive argument. Try to stay calm and rational as much as possible. Do not take the bait or get caught in a blame-shifting or <a href="https://psychcentral.com/pro/recovery-expert/2018/06/victim-blaming" data-type="URL" data-id="https://psychcentral.com/pro/recovery-expert/2018/06/victim-blaming" target="_blank" rel="noopener">victim-blaming</a> game. Keep your emotions in control when dealing with a narcissist. It is important to remain calm and composed during the conversations.</p>
  1836.  
  1837.  
  1838.  
  1839. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">What to expect or do after breaking up with the narcissist?</h2>
  1840.  
  1841.  
  1842.  
  1843. <p>Narcissists would not sit still and do nothing when you implement the break-up. Narcissists try to hoover around their exes or anyone ghosting them and victimize them again, as they cannot let go easily. It can be really difficult to break up or ghost a narcissist as they can blackmail you, take <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-ever-forget-you-or-get-over-you/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-ever-forget-you-or-get-over-you/">revenge</a>, or <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-long-will-a-narcissist-hoover-how-to-stop-him-her/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-long-will-a-narcissist-hoover-how-to-stop-him-her/">hoover</a> around for a long period of time. They do this because they do not want to lose control over their source of supply. And also it is always difficult to date a narcissist due to their anger issues and unhealthy behavior so they have to be dependent on a lot of people to get their supply. </p>
  1844.  
  1845.  
  1846.  
  1847. <p>So they would be finding ways to either get back at you for leaving them abruptly or get together back with you after you text them about breaking up with them. So let us know some precautionary points to stay away from the narcissist after breaking up with them.</p>
  1848.  
  1849.  
  1850.  
  1851. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">1. Block all means of communication or contact after breaking up</h3>
  1852.  
  1853.  
  1854.  
  1855. <p>Going &#8220;No Contact&#8221; means going completely off contact or an off-reach approach with them be it by deleting or <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-does-a-narcissist-react-to-being-blocked/">blocking them</a> on social media, blocking their phone number, not visiting places that you expect them to be, or even going to extreme limits like switching your grocery stores, taking different metros, or avoiding any activity that you think you might bump into them. This ensures that you keep your distance from the narcissist. </p>
  1856.  
  1857.  
  1858. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1859. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/182.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-5427" width="161" height="59" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/182.jpg 370w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/182-300x110.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 161px) 100vw, 161px" /></figure></div>
  1860.  
  1861.  
  1862. <p>To get rid of the narcissist without much of a hassle, the no-contact phase must stay implemented for a bare minimum of 60 days or more than that. This period is enough for both; for you to move on and for them to stop chasing and hoovering around you. This ensures your well-being both emotionally and mentally. Also, make sure to cut ties with your mutual friends, or at least try to stay away from social gatherings as the narcissist might try to find their way into your life through mutual friends, acquaintances, or even family members. </p>
  1863.  
  1864.  
  1865.  
  1866. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">2. Try to seek support from friends and family after the breakup</h3>
  1867.  
  1868.  
  1869.  
  1870. <p>Being alone in such a phase is risky and not good for your mental health also, as you would be healing from all the trauma that the narcissist had put you through. So do hesitate to reach out to friends and family for emotional support and also join some prayer groups, visit any worship place, if you are a believer, or join some communities or <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Support_group" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Support_group" target="_blank" rel="noopener">therapy groups</a> that help in <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/signs-you-are-healing-from-narcissistic-abuse/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/signs-you-are-healing-from-narcissistic-abuse/">healing</a> and dealing with trauma. </p>
  1871.  
  1872.  
  1873.  
  1874. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">3. Be prepared for a reaction from the narcissist</h3>
  1875.  
  1876.  
  1877.  
  1878. <p>Narcissists generally do not take breakups very well. They will try to spin the situation to make you look bad. They might even become angry or try to <a href="https://psychcentral.com/health/guilt-trip" data-type="URL" data-id="https://psychcentral.com/health/guilt-trip" target="_blank" rel="noopener">guilt trip</a> you into staying. Be prepared for any reaction and stay true to your decision. Do not fall for their tactics and do not allow them to manipulate you into staying in a relationship that is not working. </p>
  1879.  
  1880.  
  1881.  
  1882. <p>It is obvious that the narcissist would not sit still knowing that you are breaking up, and they would try by all means to get you back. They would try to contact you from somebody else&#8217;s phone, they might visit places that you both used to visit, they might try to influence your family members to develop contact with you, and they might even scare you for financial matters, but do not get swayed and stick to your decision. Even handle your financial accounts, so that they cannot threaten to forfeit your money through your joint accounts.</p>
  1883.  
  1884.  
  1885.  
  1886. <figure class="wp-block-image aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/194.png" alt="What Does A Narcissist Think When You Do not Answer Their Text Messages?
  1887. " class="wp-image-5828" width="205" height="115"/></figure>
  1888.  
  1889.  
  1890.  
  1891. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">4. Follow up through</h3>
  1892.  
  1893.  
  1894.  
  1895. <p>Once you have sent the text message, it is important to follow through with your decision. Do not allow the narcissist to <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/love-bombing-vs-infatuation-15-main-differences/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/love-bombing-vs-infatuation-15-main-differences/">love-bomb</a> you back into the relationship. Stick to your ideas and move forward with your life. Remember that you made this decision for a reason, and sticking to it will be the best thing for you in the long run. </p>
  1896.  
  1897.  
  1898.  
  1899. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">5. Not falling for their tricks like hoovering, chasing, or reappearing</h3>
  1900.  
  1901.  
  1902.  
  1903. <p>Narcissists try to hoover around their exes or anyone ghosting them and victimize them again, as they cannot let go easily. It can be really difficult to break up or ghost a narcissist as they can blackmail you, take revenge, or hoover around for a long period of time. They do this because they do not want to lose control over their source of supply. And also it is always difficult to date a narcissist due to their anger issues and unhealthy behavior so they have to be dependent on a lot of people to get their supply. </p>
  1904.  
  1905.  
  1906.  
  1907. <p>Hoovering is always intended for the emotional ex-partner that a narcissist tries to regain. It is the vulnerabilities that the narcissist takes advantage of. They would try to remind you of them by their glimpses and presence.</p>
  1908.  
  1909.  
  1910.  
  1911. <p>Narcissists are experts at <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/working-ways-to-get-revenge-on-a-narcissist/">getting revenge</a>. When you try to go no contact with them, they would find the means to hurt you. They would be so worked up about them losing their grip and control of you that they might affirmatively seek revenge. They can try to make you jealous by immediately finding <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-long-does-a-new-narcissist-relationship-last/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-long-does-a-new-narcissist-relationship-last/">a new partner</a> and showing you that they have already moved past you. </p>
  1912.  
  1913.  
  1914.  
  1915. <p>There are many ways to reappear that they can resort to, they might lure you by making you vulnerable for physical intimacy, they would send you presents like flowers, chocolates, or anything dear to you to remind you that they still care for you or they would wait for their chance until your anger melts and you give up the no contact thing. </p>
  1916.  
  1917.  
  1918. <div class="wp-block-image">
  1919. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/185.png" alt="" class="wp-image-5429" width="131" height="197"/></figure></div>
  1920.  
  1921.  
  1922. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">6. Take time to work on yourself after the breakup</h3>
  1923.  
  1924.  
  1925.  
  1926. <p>Emotional, Mental, and physical Healing becomes very important when you depart ways with a narcissist. A <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-family-relationships/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-family-relationships/">narcissistic relationship</a> tends to deteriorate your mental, physical, and emotional health along with decreasing your confidence, willpower to live, and the simple joys of life. </p>
  1927.  
  1928.  
  1929.  
  1930. <p><strong><em>Try to give yourself time to heal yourself after all the manipulation, trauma, and abuse. Here below are some signs that you are healing from a breakup, </em></strong></p>
  1931.  
  1932.  
  1933.  
  1934. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  1935. <li>You look happy and healthy</li>
  1936.  
  1937.  
  1938.  
  1939. <li>You can reminiscence your good old habits </li>
  1940.  
  1941.  
  1942.  
  1943. <li>You start enjoying your own company and your attitude toward life changes</li>
  1944.  
  1945.  
  1946.  
  1947. <li>Your life starts seeming carefree</li>
  1948.  
  1949.  
  1950.  
  1951. <li>You become more confident with life</li>
  1952.  
  1953.  
  1954.  
  1955. <li>Physical and mental health issues tend to disappear</li>
  1956.  
  1957.  
  1958.  
  1959. <li>You start feeling all the emotions</li>
  1960. </ul>
  1961.  
  1962.  
  1963.  
  1964. <figure class="wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio"><div class="wp-block-embed__wrapper">
  1965. <div class="video-container"><iframe title="How to leave a narcissist..the safest way possible for you because everyone’s situation is different" width="500" height="281" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/lxTDenc1FVQ?feature=oembed&#038;wmode=opaque" frameborder="0" allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share" referrerpolicy="strict-origin-when-cross-origin" allowfullscreen></iframe></div>
  1966. </div></figure>
  1967.  
  1968.  
  1969.  
  1970. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Important Takeaway</h2>
  1971.  
  1972.  
  1973.  
  1974. <p>In summing up this article, it is recommended for the readers that they should carefully plan their exit from the toxic relationship with the narcissist. Ending a relationship with a narcissist requires careful planning, boundaries, and support. Remember that you deserve to be in a healthy, respectful relationship, and do not let anyone convince you otherwise. </p>
  1975.  
  1976.  
  1977.  
  1978. <p>Do not always expect a mature breakup or even a satisfactory closure while ending things with a narcissist. </p>
  1979.  
  1980.  
  1981.  
  1982. <p>Yes! Breaking up with a narcissist can be a <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cynicism_(contemporary)" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cynicism_(contemporary)" target="_blank" rel="noopener">cynical</a> and delusional act, but once you are out there is no going back. </p>
  1983.  
  1984.  
  1985.  
  1986. <p>Trust yourself and all the beautiful emotions that you have regained after breaking up with a narcissist.</p>
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  1995. <title>What Do Narcissists Do In Their Spare Time? (Researched)</title>
  1996. <link>https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-do-narcissists-do-in-their-spare-time-researched/</link>
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  1999. <dc:creator><![CDATA[Ella Carrillo]]></dc:creator>
  2000. <pubDate>Fri, 20 Dec 2024 00:35:52 +0000</pubDate>
  2001. <category><![CDATA[Narcissism]]></category>
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  2005.  
  2006. <description><![CDATA[What do Narcissists do in their spare time? Leisure or spare time, cannot be generalized for anyone in particular, but there are a few things that everybody loves to do and enjoy doing that&#46;&#46;&#46;]]></description>
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  2008. <p>What do Narcissists do in their spare time? Leisure or spare time, cannot be generalized for anyone in particular, but there are a few things that everybody loves to do and enjoy doing that in their free time or spare time. Everyone has their unique and preferred hobbies and interests which they like to pursue in their leisure time. </p>
  2009.  
  2010.  
  2011.  
  2012. <p>However, for narcissists, there are a few activities that they tend to engage in, in general, and this may be common among almost many narcissists. Narcissists tend to invest their time in a way that it becomes beneficial to them ultimately. They would choose skill development over gossip or socializing with people they think have a similar mindset and thought processes as them, against chitchatting leisurely. </p>
  2013.  
  2014.  
  2015. <div class="wp-block-image">
  2016. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/127.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9988" width="182" height="153" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/127.jpg 474w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/127-300x252.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 182px) 100vw, 182px" /></figure></div>
  2017.  
  2018.  
  2019. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Comprehensive Understanding of Narcissism </h2>
  2020.  
  2021.  
  2022.  
  2023. <p>A <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/understanding-narcissistic-personality-disorder/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/understanding-narcissistic-personality-disorder/">narcissist</a> is a person who has an excessive sense of self-importance, who likes to be self-absorbed, and who only thinks for themselves, maintaining their good image, and their own good. They often have a strong need to obtain praise, admiration, adoration, attention, and importance wherever they may be at. They lack empathy, care, and understanding for others. They like to display their grandiosity in life and expect to be treated specially as they feel they are entitled to everything superior and special than others. </p>
  2024.  
  2025.  
  2026.  
  2027. <p>Characterized by a grandiose sense of self-importance, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy, narcissism is a personality disorder that affects approximately one percent of the population. Narcissists are often difficult to deal with because they have an inflated sense of self-worth that permeates every aspect of their lives. They may feel entitled, arrogant, and self-centered, and their behavior can be highly unpredictable, causing chaos and dysfunction in personal and professional relationships.</p>
  2028.  
  2029.  
  2030.  
  2031. <p>Narcissists possess some traits that make them a little hard to deal with. Some peculiar narcissistic traits include, </p>
  2032.  
  2033.  
  2034.  
  2035. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  2036. <li>Lack of sensitivity and empathy.</li>
  2037.  
  2038.  
  2039.  
  2040. <li>Are self-centric.</li>
  2041.  
  2042.  
  2043.  
  2044. <li>Blame others for your mistakes.</li>
  2045.  
  2046.  
  2047.  
  2048. <li>Have unhealthy relations.</li>
  2049.  
  2050.  
  2051.  
  2052. <li>Arrogance and anger is your first reaction to any problems.</li>
  2053.  
  2054.  
  2055.  
  2056. <li>Hate changes and also cannot take them well.</li>
  2057.  
  2058.  
  2059.  
  2060. <li>Are emotionally unstable and unavailable.</li>
  2061.  
  2062.  
  2063.  
  2064. <li>Takes advantage of others easily.</li>
  2065.  
  2066.  
  2067.  
  2068. <li>Are abusive.</li>
  2069.  
  2070.  
  2071.  
  2072. <li>Lack of self-awareness and self-reflection.</li>
  2073.  
  2074.  
  2075.  
  2076. <li>Always expect more from others.</li>
  2077. </ul>
  2078.  
  2079.  
  2080. <div class="wp-block-image">
  2081. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/18.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9989" width="158" height="158" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/18.jpg 480w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/18-300x300.jpg 300w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/18-150x150.jpg 150w" sizes="(max-width: 158px) 100vw, 158px" /></figure></div>
  2082.  
  2083.  
  2084. <p>Narcissists do not hesitate to exploit others and do it regularly to make things easy for them. They often fulfill their own wishes, needs, and desires by compromising everyone else&#8217;s and always prioritizing what they need against the needs of others. They may also do things that may exert their <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-a-narcissist-loses-power/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-a-narcissist-loses-power/">power </a>and control over others. They may <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-is-a-narcissistic-projection/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-is-a-narcissistic-projection/">project</a> their own insecurities onto others and always do things in their own ways. </p>
  2085.  
  2086.  
  2087.  
  2088. <p>In their leisure time also, narcissists would do such things which help them in maintaining their grandiose image, their power, control, and status in society. Narcissists think they need to be uptight at all times in the eyes of people and they should not do anything that can harm their grandiose and charming image. They feel that they should be liked at all times by people, hence they would not do anything that might tarnish their image even in their spare time. So what indeed a narcissist might do in their spare time? Let us get to know the answer to the question, &#8220;What do Narcissists do in their spare time?&#8221; further in the article. </p>
  2089.  
  2090.  
  2091.  
  2092. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">What do Narcissists do in their spare time?</h2>
  2093.  
  2094.  
  2095.  
  2096. <p>Narcissists are individuals who have a boosted sense of self-importance and often engage in attention-seeking behaviors. They have a typical belief that they are better than others and deserve special treatment. Narcissists may have varying hobbies and interests, depending on their personality type and personal preferences. </p>
  2097.  
  2098.  
  2099.  
  2100. <p>According to a few types of research done by mental health experts, a few common activities have been found to be a common interest among many narcissistic personalities which they tend to include or engage in during their spare time. A few activities are mentioned below,</p>
  2101.  
  2102.  
  2103.  
  2104. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Spending time on social media platforms </h3>
  2105.  
  2106.  
  2107.  
  2108. <p>Narcissists often spend a considerable amount of time on social media platforms. Social media provides a platform for them to showcase their achievements, flaunt the grandiosity of their lifestyle, amass a great amount of admiration and praise, and project their own idealized image of themselves. They would always present the best of themselves on social media platforms which may convince people to think that they are indeed living a grand and fulfilled life. </p>
  2109.  
  2110.  
  2111. <div class="wp-block-image">
  2112. <figure class="aligncenter size-large is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/128-1024x1024.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9991" width="218" height="218" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/128-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/128-300x300.jpg 300w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/128-150x150.jpg 150w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/128-768x768.jpg 768w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/128-1536x1536.jpg 1536w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/128.jpg 2048w" sizes="(max-width: 218px) 100vw, 218px" /></figure></div>
  2113.  
  2114.  
  2115. <p>They may constantly update their profiles with pictures and posts that highlight their perceived beauty, success, achievements, fulfillment, and success. They would aim to post highly curated and exaggerated content to showcase their accomplishments, achievements, and lives style. They may also use social media platforms to compare themselves with others, seeking validation and approval from their followers. They may also sometimes engage in online conflicts and arguments to prove their superiority and gain dominance over others. </p>
  2116.  
  2117.  
  2118.  
  2119. <p>Social media platforms provide narcissists with a perfect platform to feed their egos and fuel their <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_supply" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_supply" target="_blank" rel="noopener">narcissistic supply</a>. </p>
  2120.  
  2121.  
  2122.  
  2123. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Engaging in sporty activities </h3>
  2124.  
  2125.  
  2126.  
  2127. <p>Narcissists tend to engage in activities that boost their self-esteem and reinforce their sense of superiority. They may frequently participate in high-intensity sports or activities that require physical prowess, such as golf or tennis. Narcissists are known to prefer individual sports over team sports as they seek to be the center of attention and receive individual recognition. They may also enjoy activities that reinforce their sense of power and superiority, such as engaging in playful games, sporty activities, or any such activities that include and involve <a href="https://psychcentral.com/blog/psychology-self/2017/09/narcissistic-projection#1" data-type="URL" data-id="https://psychcentral.com/blog/psychology-self/2017/09/narcissistic-projection#1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">competition</a> and dominance. </p>
  2128.  
  2129.  
  2130. <div class="wp-block-image">
  2131. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/132.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9993" width="164" height="165" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/132.jpg 474w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/132-300x300.jpg 300w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/132-150x150.jpg 150w" sizes="(max-width: 164px) 100vw, 164px" /></figure></div>
  2132.  
  2133.  
  2134. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Engaging in activities that display the grandiosity of their lifestyle</h3>
  2135.  
  2136.  
  2137.  
  2138. <p>Narcissists often indulge in luxury activities to affirm their status and superiority. They may frequently go on shopping sprees, travel to exotic places, dine at luxurious restaurants and spend money on ventures that may display their affluence and lavishness. Such activities serve as a validation of their wealth and financial status, also reinforcing their belief that they are better than others. Narcissists may also enjoy collecting elite and exclusive items, such as designer clothing or luxury cars, to display their social status and wealth. </p>
  2139.  
  2140.  
  2141. <div class="wp-block-image">
  2142. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/131.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9990" width="261" height="137" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/131.jpg 474w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/131-300x157.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 261px) 100vw, 261px" /></figure></div>
  2143.  
  2144.  
  2145. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Attending social events</h3>
  2146.  
  2147.  
  2148.  
  2149. <p>Narcissists enjoy being around individuals who admire them, follow what they suggest, and also fulfill all their needs and wishes. They may frequently attend social events and parties to gain attention from others. Narcissists often seek out social situations where they can dominate conversations and be the elephant in the room. They often like to grab attention and also be the center of attraction wherever they go. They may also attend events where they are likely to meet influential people who can offer them greater personal or professional opportunities. </p>
  2150.  
  2151.  
  2152.  
  2153. <p><em><strong>There are also a few other activities that a narcissist may engage in their leisure time,</strong></em></p>
  2154.  
  2155.  
  2156.  
  2157. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  2158. <li><strong>Self Admiration</strong> &#8211; Narcissists might spend a lot of time admiring themselves, either physically or mentally. </li>
  2159. </ul>
  2160.  
  2161.  
  2162.  
  2163. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  2164. <li><strong>Health and Fitness</strong> &#8211; Many narcissists place a high priority on their physical appearance, and they may spend time at the gym or working out at home. </li>
  2165. </ul>
  2166.  
  2167.  
  2168.  
  2169. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  2170. <li><strong>Gathering Material Possessions</strong> &#8211; Narcissists enjoy spending money on extensive material possessions like vintage cars, jewelry, or artifacts. </li>
  2171. </ul>
  2172.  
  2173.  
  2174.  
  2175. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  2176. <li><strong>Engaging in activities that may exert their power</strong> &#8211; Narcissists may enjoy exerting power over others, and they may engage in activities such as pressing others or controlling them. </li>
  2177. </ul>
  2178.  
  2179.  
  2180.  
  2181. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  2182. <li><strong>Adrenaline-Driven</strong> activities &#8211; Narcissists enjoy exciting and stimulating situations, so they may engage in activities such as extreme sports or risky behaviors. </li>
  2183. </ul>
  2184.  
  2185.  
  2186.  
  2187. <p>Narcissists often tend to have a strong desire for attention and admiration, so they may engage in activities that allow them to show off their achievements, physical appearances, and skills. They may also enjoy activities that reinforce their sense of power and superiority, such as engaging in playful games, sporty activities, or any such activities that include and involve competition and dominance. They may also engage in social activities like attending get-to-gathers or meet-ups where they flaunt the <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grandiosity" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grandiosity" target="_blank" rel="noopener">grandiosity</a> of their life and achievements. </p>
  2188.  
  2189.  
  2190.  
  2191. <p>Additionally, they may engage in activities where they can control or manipulate others, such as relationships or work environment, or activities that allow them to feel important and admired, such as engaging in community activities. But at the end of the discussion, it ultimately depends on the individual narcissist and their personal interest and preferences. Generally, narcissistic individuals engage in activities based on their interests, hobbies, values, and preferences regardless of their personality. </p>
  2192.  
  2193.  
  2194. <div class="wp-block-image">
  2195. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/130.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9994" width="211" height="139" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/130.jpg 640w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/130-300x198.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 211px) 100vw, 211px" /></figure></div>
  2196.  
  2197.  
  2198. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Why do narcissists like to spend so much money to maintain their grandiose image?</h2>
  2199.  
  2200.  
  2201.  
  2202. <p>Usually, narcissists would not spend money on others but when it comes to maintaining their grandiose image they may spend an ample amount without any hesitation. Here are a few reasons; why narcissists like to spend so much money to maintain their grandiose image.</p>
  2203.  
  2204.  
  2205.  
  2206. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  2207. <li><strong>To impress others</strong> &#8211; Narcissists often have an excessive need for admiration and validation from others. They believe that if they have the latest expensive clothes, cars, and gadgets they may be able to impress people easily. </li>
  2208.  
  2209.  
  2210.  
  2211. <li><strong>To boost their ego</strong> &#8211; Narcissists believe that material possession serves as a status symbol that may boost their ego and self-importance in society. Owning expensive things can give them a feeling of superiority over others.</li>
  2212.  
  2213.  
  2214.  
  2215. <li><strong>To make insecurities</strong> &#8211; Narcissists have a deep-rooted insecurity right from their <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-a-narcissist-has-a-baby/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-a-narcissist-has-a-baby/">childhood</a> regarding living a fulfilled and pleasing life, which they try to compensate for by showcasing their wealth and success. By presenting a grandiose image, they hope and try to hide their flaws.  </li>
  2216.  
  2217.  
  2218.  
  2219. <li><strong>To maintain control</strong> &#8211; Narcissists like to exert control over everything and everyone around them. By showing off their monetary power, they think that they assert dominance and power to make others feel inferior and small to them and also if possible indebted to them. </li>
  2220. </ul>
  2221.  
  2222.  
  2223.  
  2224. <figure class="wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio"><div class="wp-block-embed__wrapper">
  2225. <div class="video-container"><iframe title="How Narcissists Use Money" width="500" height="281" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/ULoqashxUyY?feature=oembed&#038;wmode=opaque" frameborder="0" allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share" referrerpolicy="strict-origin-when-cross-origin" allowfullscreen></iframe></div>
  2226. </div></figure>
  2227.  
  2228.  
  2229.  
  2230. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Important Takeaway </h2>
  2231.  
  2232.  
  2233.  
  2234. <p>Narcissists tend to engage in activities that establish their sense of superiority and self-importance. They often tend to have a strong desire for attention and admiration, so they may engage in activities that allow them to show off their achievements, physical appearances, and skills. They may also enjoy activities that reinforce their sense of power and superiority, such as engaging in playful games, sporty activities, or any such activities that include and involve competition and dominance. They may also engage in social activities like attending get-to-gathers or meet-ups where they flaunt the grandiosity of their life and achievements. </p>
  2235.  
  2236.  
  2237.  
  2238. <p>Additionally, they may engage in activities where they can control or manipulate others, such as relationships or work environment, or activities that allow them to feel important and admired, such as engaging in community activities. But at the end of the discussion, it ultimately depends on the individual narcissist and their personal interest and preferences. Generally, narcissistic individuals engage in activities based on their interests, hobbies, values, and preferences regardless of their personality. Narcissists may have varying hobbies and interests, depending on their personality type and personal preferences. </p>
  2239.  
  2240.  
  2241.  
  2242. <p>It is also important to note that not all narcissists engage in such activities, but some research done by experts, suggests that such behaviors are commonly associated with narcissistic personality traits. </p>
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  2251. <title>Why Do Narcissists Constantly Keep You Waiting? (Real Reason)</title>
  2252. <link>https://nextgenpsychology.com/why-do-narcissists-constantly-keep-you-waiting/</link>
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  2255. <dc:creator><![CDATA[Ella Carrillo]]></dc:creator>
  2256. <pubDate>Thu, 19 Dec 2024 16:54:05 +0000</pubDate>
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  2261.  
  2262. <description><![CDATA[Why do Narcissists constantly keep you Waiting? If you have a narcissistic partner, family member, friend, or acquaintance you might have always noticed that they might always keep you waiting for them whenever you&#46;&#46;&#46;]]></description>
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  2264. <p>Why do Narcissists constantly keep you Waiting? If you have a narcissistic partner, <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-family-relationships/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/narcissistic-family-relationships/">family</a> member, <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-do-narcissists-treat-their-friends/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/how-do-narcissists-treat-their-friends/">friend</a>, or acquaintance you might have always noticed that they might always keep you waiting for them whenever you have any commitment or a plan of meeting them. But have you ever wondered why they would do so every time? Let us know the reasons and also the answer to the question, &#8220;Why do Narcissists constantly keep you Waiting?&#8221;.</p>
  2265.  
  2266.  
  2267.  
  2268. <p>Narcissists often keep others waiting and others also readily wait for them without much protest as they know that arguing with a narcissist might take a toll on their mental health as narcissists are experts in proving everyone wrong, and always proving their argument or point valid or acceptable reason. </p>
  2269.  
  2270.  
  2271.  
  2272. <p>So if you have been with a narcissist or any abuser, you might be well aware of the &#8220;<strong>Abuser&#8217;s</strong> <strong><em>Waiting Game</em></strong>&#8221; that they love to play with their victims. So now, many questions might be popping into your head, &#8220;What is the Waiting Game?&#8221;, &#8220;Why do abusers play the waiting game?&#8221;, &#8220;Why do abusers keep you waiting?&#8221;, &#8220;Is it intentional or unintentional?&#8221;. Let us get to know more about the abuser&#8217;s waiting game and the reasons why they do keep you waiting. </p>
  2273.  
  2274.  
  2275. <div class="wp-block-image">
  2276. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/126.png" alt="" class="wp-image-9948" width="132" height="132" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/126.png 512w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/126-300x300.png 300w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/126-150x150.png 150w" sizes="(max-width: 132px) 100vw, 132px" /></figure></div>
  2277.  
  2278.  
  2279. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">What is the narcissist&#8217;s/abuser&#8217;s waiting game?</h2>
  2280.  
  2281.  
  2282.  
  2283. <p>The waiting game is nothing new, but to keep someone waiting for you on purpose. It means to delay or make someone wait for an indefinite period of time before meeting them, performing an action, or doing some activity. Sometimes this can be unintentional, but for narcissists/abusers; is most of the time intentional or on purpose. </p>
  2284.  
  2285.  
  2286.  
  2287. <p>They like when someone waits for them, or they just like the feeling of making someone wait for them. In ninety percent of instances keeping someone waiting is international for narcissists/abusers and only in ten percent of instances it can be genuine or unintentional. Making someone wait for them can give the narcissists/abusers some sort of satisfaction or delight, but for the person who is waiting this waiting period can be frustrating and inconvenient. </p>
  2288.  
  2289.  
  2290.  
  2291. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Why do Narcissists constantly keep you waiting?</h2>
  2292.  
  2293.  
  2294.  
  2295. <p><a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/understanding-narcissistic-personality-disorder/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/understanding-narcissistic-personality-disorder/">Narcissistic Personality Disorder</a> is a mental health disorder, where a person has a boosted sense of self, where they only consider their own self to be important and need constant admiration, adoration, control, and attention. They constantly have the need to manipulate others for their own good and lack empathy for others. Narcissists often engage in behaviors that create a sense of power and control over others. </p>
  2296.  
  2297.  
  2298.  
  2299. <p>If you have ever been with a narcissist in any kind of relationship, then you might be well aware of the fact that they make you wait and how frustrating the complete situation gets for you. It becomes a real vex situation when the narcissist/abuser keeps you waiting. Whether it is waiting for them to show up for a dinner/lunch date, waiting for their text reply, or answering back to a phone call, a narcissist would not hesitate to seek pleasure in making others wait. But why do they do this? What are some real reasons behind their constant tardiness?</p>
  2300.  
  2301.  
  2302.  
  2303. <p>One of the most common traits of a narcissist is their tendency to consistently keep other people waiting. Whether it is showing up late for parties, meetings, or get-to-gathers, consistently rescheduling plans, or simply delaying responses to texts or calls, this behavior can be frustrating for those around them. </p>
  2304.  
  2305.  
  2306. <div class="wp-block-image">
  2307. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/124.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9949" width="177" height="182"/></figure></div>
  2308.  
  2309.  
  2310. <p>So to know the real reason why a narcissist behaves in this manner, it is important to first understand a narcissist&#8217;s/abuser&#8217;s motivations and mindset. Narcissists view themselves as superior to others and tend to prioritize their own needs and desires above everything else. They often lack the ability to prioritize other peoples&#8217; time commitments and are happiest when they are in <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-lack-self-control/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-lack-self-control/">control</a> of the situation.</p>
  2311.  
  2312.  
  2313.  
  2314. <p>Narcissists like to appeal to their dominance and power over others to keep them waiting as a show of dominance. They may feel that by making someone wait, they are exerting control over that person and that this behavior demonstrates their superiority. Narcissists may also use this behavior as a means to punish others, particularly if they feel as though they have been disrespected in some or the other way. </p>
  2315.  
  2316.  
  2317.  
  2318. <p>In some cases, this behavior of the narcissist may develop a desire for attention or constant validation from others. Narcissists generally thrive on admiration and may use this time-related waiting game tactic to elicit more attention from others around them. By keeping people waiting, they are able to draw out a strong reaction, which can help to feed their egos and give them a sense of control and <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-a-narcissist-loses-power/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-happens-when-a-narcissist-loses-power/">power</a>. </p>
  2319.  
  2320.  
  2321.  
  2322. <p>Regardless of the underlying motivation, it is important to note that this behavior can be damaging to relationships and can cause significant emotional distress for those who are impacted by it. Individuals who are consistently kept waiting may feel disrespected, devalued, frustrated, and ignored. This can negatively impact their overall well-being over time. </p>
  2323.  
  2324.  
  2325. <div class="wp-block-image">
  2326. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/94.jpeg" alt="" class="wp-image-9951" width="243" height="136" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/94.jpeg 474w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/94-300x168.jpeg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 243px) 100vw, 243px" /></figure></div>
  2327.  
  2328.  
  2329. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Reasons why narcissists/abusers keep you waiting</h2>
  2330.  
  2331.  
  2332.  
  2333. <p>There are a few reasons why narcissists/abusers keep you waiting, which are discussed below,</p>
  2334.  
  2335.  
  2336.  
  2337. <p>Narcissists/abusers consider their time to be more valuable than others, hence they may hardly prioritize being on time for meeting people that they feel are unimportant for them or are less valuable than them. </p>
  2338.  
  2339.  
  2340.  
  2341. <p>Keeping someone waiting can be a superlative move to assert or establish power and dominance over others/situations; which a narcissist believes blindly. Thus making it clearly indicating that the narcissist&#8217;s needs and time are more important than other people whom they are meeting. </p>
  2342.  
  2343.  
  2344.  
  2345. <p>Narcissists believe that keeping someone waiting can be a form of control and <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" target="_blank" rel="noopener">manipulation</a>. They may use this tactic as a way to test how much the other person with whom they associating are willing to tolerate and how important is the narcissists&#8217; time according to the other person. </p>
  2346.  
  2347.  
  2348.  
  2349. <p>When a narcissist wishes to teach the other person a lesson, regarding some past mistake then they might opt to play the waiting game with you. Because doing so may create a sense of uncertainty in the other person, causing self-doubt and a decrease in self-worth for others. </p>
  2350.  
  2351.  
  2352.  
  2353. <p>Narcissists usually lack consideration for others. They may hardly recognize the negative impact caused by them by keeping others waiting. They hardly care about others, which makes them so inconsiderate towards others. </p>
  2354.  
  2355.  
  2356.  
  2357. <p>By keeping someone waiting, a narcissist/abuser wishes to establish anxiety or discomfort in the person, making them doubt the uncertainty of the waiting period. </p>
  2358.  
  2359.  
  2360.  
  2361. <p>To make someone go through the <a href="https://psychcentral.com/health/guilt-trip" data-type="URL" data-id="https://psychcentral.com/health/guilt-trip" target="_blank" rel="noopener">guilt trip</a> by making them wait. In the case of covert narcissists, they are sometimes unable to express that they are upset with someone, thus they would take their revenge by keeping others waiting on purpose. </p>
  2362.  
  2363.  
  2364.  
  2365. <p>Narcissists/abusers sometimes intentionally disrupt a person&#8217;s day or schedule, as a form of sabotage or retaliation. </p>
  2366.  
  2367.  
  2368.  
  2369. <p>And last but not least, a narcissist considers everyone else less important or valuable than themselves, thus they simply do not value the other person&#8217;s time or their needs. </p>
  2370.  
  2371.  
  2372.  
  2373. <p>At times, when a narcissist genuinely gets late, then too they would not be apologetic, rather they would consider this as an entitlement to keep others waiting for them, as they think that they are great and more valuable than everybody else. </p>
  2374.  
  2375.  
  2376. <div class="wp-block-image">
  2377. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/125.png" alt="" class="wp-image-9950" width="196" height="196" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/125.png 512w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/125-300x300.png 300w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/125-150x150.png 150w" sizes="(max-width: 196px) 100vw, 196px" /></figure></div>
  2378.  
  2379.  
  2380. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">How should you react when someone; especially a narcissist/abuser consistently keeps you waiting?</h2>
  2381.  
  2382.  
  2383.  
  2384. <p>It becomes important to react or at least show some kind of counter-action or reaction when someone consistently keeps you waiting at least for your self-respect and self-esteem. Here below, some ways are mentioned have been mentioned through which you can know, how should you react when someone; especially a narcissist/abuser consistently keeps you waiting. </p>
  2385.  
  2386.  
  2387.  
  2388. <p>If you find yourself consistently waiting either out of habit or a kind of fear, then the first step is to set boundaries and express your concerns to them. </p>
  2389.  
  2390.  
  2391.  
  2392. <p>Make it clear that your time is also valuable hence you expect some respect from the narcissist/abuser for the commitments and not take your availability for granted. </p>
  2393.  
  2394.  
  2395.  
  2396. <p>In some cases, it may also become very much important to reaccess the relationship along with re-evaluating it based on such typical repetitive behavioral patterns. </p>
  2397.  
  2398.  
  2399.  
  2400. <p>Here it also becomes important to consider whether it is worth continuing and investing your time, presence, and energy into such a relationship where you are continuously and consistently being disregarded and your feelings are totally being ignored. </p>
  2401.  
  2402.  
  2403.  
  2404. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">What should you do when someone keeps you waiting?</h2>
  2405.  
  2406.  
  2407.  
  2408. <p>To be precise, the answer to this question mainly depends on the situation and the person who keeps you waiting. In some cases, you need to be patient in order to save the relationship from falling apart, while in some cases, where such behavior has become a pattern and a habit of abuse, then it should not be tolerated with respect to your self-respect and self-esteem. </p>
  2409.  
  2410.  
  2411.  
  2412. <p>If waiting for someone feels like a manipulative tactic, you should immediately discuss it with the person who is keeping you waiting as your time, energy, and presence matter in the relationship. It is okay to wait for someone occasionally, but when this becomes a toxic repetitive cycle, immediately step up and step out of such repetitive abuse patterns. </p>
  2413.  
  2414.  
  2415.  
  2416. <figure class="wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio"><div class="wp-block-embed__wrapper">
  2417. <div class="video-container"><iframe title="HOW THE NARCISSIST KEEPS YOU WAITING" width="500" height="281" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/PJ8u6AYloOE?feature=oembed&#038;wmode=opaque" frameborder="0" allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share" referrerpolicy="strict-origin-when-cross-origin" allowfullscreen></iframe></div>
  2418. </div></figure>
  2419.  
  2420.  
  2421.  
  2422. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Conclusion</h2>
  2423.  
  2424.  
  2425.  
  2426. <p>There may be a variety of reasons that a narcissist may keep you waiting for unpredictable times. Like, during meetings, on a lunch/dinner date, to show up as a part of the commitment, to text back or answer back a call, or showing up at simple casual meetups. The narcissist would keep you waiting to show dominance, power, and control. They may also do this as a part of punishment for someone, or also as an attempt to gain validation. </p>
  2427.  
  2428.  
  2429.  
  2430. <p>Thus the conclusion here is, it becomes important to take the time to fully understand and address the underlying behavior pattern of keeping someone waiting just to seek pleasure so that it becomes possible to create a healthier and more fulfilling relationship with one another. Here it also becomes important to consider whether it is worth continuing and investing your time, presence, and energy into such a relationship where you are continuously and consistently being disregarded and your feelings are totally being ignored. </p>
  2431.  
  2432.  
  2433.  
  2434. <p>Always remember, your time is as valuable, important, and worthy as that of others, and it is also important to engage with people who also value, respect, and take your time and presence seriously in their life. </p>
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  2443. <title>What To Do When A Narcissist Calls You A Narcissist? (Give This Reaction)</title>
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  2447. <dc:creator><![CDATA[Ella Carrillo]]></dc:creator>
  2448. <pubDate>Thu, 19 Dec 2024 08:51:10 +0000</pubDate>
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  2454. <description><![CDATA[What to do when a Narcissist calls you a Narcissist? Have you ever come across such a situation, where you have been gaslighted for someone or something that you are not? This often happens&#46;&#46;&#46;]]></description>
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  2456. <p>What to do when a Narcissist calls you a Narcissist? Have you ever come across such a situation, where you have been gaslighted for someone or something that you are not? This often happens when you are either dealing with an abuser or a narcissist where they blame you constantly for their negative traits or call you out as someone that you are not!</p>
  2457.  
  2458.  
  2459.  
  2460. <p>When such a situation takes place, where you have been wrongly been called out for which you are not indeed, either you feel you have indeed become what they have been calling you out for and blame yourself or just get disappointed with yourself and move on. If this happens when you are dealing with a narcissist, here we will discuss all the possible ways to deal with it and find the answer to the question, &#8220;What to do when a Narcissist calls you a Narcissist?&#8221;. </p>
  2461.  
  2462.  
  2463. <div class="wp-block-image">
  2464. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/120.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9943" width="221" height="147" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/120.jpg 474w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/120-300x200.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 221px) 100vw, 221px" /></figure></div>
  2465.  
  2466.  
  2467. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Do Narcissists call others narcissists?</h2>
  2468.  
  2469.  
  2470.  
  2471. <p>Yes! It is very much possible for a narcissist to call others around them about being narcissistic. A narcissist can always accuse others of being narcissistic rather than reflecting upon their own personality disorder. Some narcissists do this on purpose just to deflect attention away from their own narcissistic personality and behavior and play the blame game with others. By pointing someone else as the narcissist in the room, the narcissist would try to shift the blame or accusations from their own self to someone who is blaming them. This tactic of <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" data-type="URL" data-id="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipulation_(psychology)" target="_blank" rel="noopener">manipulation</a> is known as the <a href="https://psychcentral.com/blog/savvy-shrink/2018/07/what-is-narcissistic-projection-a-blame-shifting-tactic-of-the-extreme-narcissist" data-type="URL" data-id="https://psychcentral.com/blog/savvy-shrink/2018/07/what-is-narcissistic-projection-a-blame-shifting-tactic-of-the-extreme-narcissist" target="_blank" rel="noopener">blame shift</a>. </p>
  2472.  
  2473.  
  2474.  
  2475. <p>By calling someone else a narcissist, a narcissist would project their own insecurities onto others. A narcissist would label others as &#8220;Narcissistic&#8221; to just degrade or diminish their self-esteem or devalue them. They would accuse others of being narcissists to just hide their own lacking personality. But the most important thing here is to note that not all people who accuse or call out others as narcissists are narcissists. Also when someone else who is not a narcissist calls out someone else as a narcissist it is crucial to understand the intentions and context behind the use of such labels. </p>
  2476.  
  2477.  
  2478.  
  2479. <blockquote class="wp-block-quote has-text-align-center has-accent-color has-text-color is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow">
  2480. <p class="has-text-align-center has-accent-color has-text-color">Narcissists reveal themselves by projecting their bad qualities onto you. They accuse you of the very things they are guilty of. They may even turn everything around and accuse you of being the narcissist. Narcissists can not handle the reality of who they are so they project it on to the people around them. They hate that part of themselves so the best way to get rid of the characteristics they despise is to say it is the other person who is actually engaging in those bad behaviors.</p>
  2481. <cite><strong><em>Maria Consiglio</em></strong></cite></blockquote>
  2482.  
  2483.  
  2484.  
  2485. <p>According to a study, &#8220;<a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28132598/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28132598/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Narcissism Spectrum Model: A Synthetic View of Narcissistic</a> Personality&#8221; published by Zlatan Krizan and Anne D Herlache, individuals rated themselves and their peers on narcissistic traits. The results showed that those with high levels of narcissism were more likely to rate their peers as more narcissistic than themselves, suggesting a projection of their own traits onto others. </p>
  2486.  
  2487.  
  2488.  
  2489. <p>Another research study done by mental health experts found that narcissistic individuals are more likely to label others as being self-centered and self-loving. The researchers suggested that this may be a way for narcissists to distance themselves from all the negative traits along with enhancing their own self-esteem. </p>
  2490.  
  2491.  
  2492.  
  2493. <p>Though both of these studies and research were not specifically targeted at the same topic, they are relatable to the topic that is being discussed here. Both these studies help to conclude the subject of the article which is the narcissist calling others narcissistic, their tendency to project their own traits and insecurities onto others, along with their accusations of narcissism. </p>
  2494.  
  2495.  
  2496.  
  2497. <p>Overall, in the conclusion of both these studies and research, it is suggested that narcissistic individuals may <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-is-a-narcissistic-projection/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/what-is-a-narcissistic-projection/">project</a> their own traits onto others, including accusations of narcissism, as a way of protecting their own self-esteem and avoiding negative self-accusations and self-evaluation. </p>
  2498.  
  2499.  
  2500. <div class="wp-block-image">
  2501. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/122.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9944" width="224" height="188" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/122.jpg 474w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/122-300x251.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 224px) 100vw, 224px" /></figure></div>
  2502.  
  2503.  
  2504. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">What does it mean when a Narcissist Calls You A Narcissist? &#8211; Why a narcissist would call other people narcissistic?</h2>
  2505.  
  2506.  
  2507.  
  2508. <p>Dealing with a narcissist can be a tricky task, especially when they try to deflect their own flaws and insecurities onto you. The situation gets even trickier when they try to accuse others of being narcissistic or displaying narcissistic qualities which according to them is troublesome to deal with for them. This situation where they project their own tendencies onto others can be really frustrating and irritating but dealing with it correctly may be proven beneficial. </p>
  2509.  
  2510.  
  2511.  
  2512. <div class="wp-block-group"><div class="wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained">
  2513. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">What are Narcissistic Projections?</h3>
  2514.  
  2515.  
  2516.  
  2517. <p><strong>Narcissistic Projections</strong> are a reaction or repulse actions that are an outcome of one&#8217;s guilt, wrongdoing, or something that one is not proud of in particular or is not ready to accept or reflect on self. It is a means that provides justification for one&#8217;s action by accusing or pointing fingers at others. This makes it easy to deal with a difficult situation, without much remorse. Narcissists use these projections more often, which does not even allow them to reflect on the wrongdoing. </p>
  2518.  
  2519.  
  2520.  
  2521. <p>The structure of projections gets more and more intense with time. This phenomenon is commonly and frequently observed among narcissists and so popularized. Narcissistic projections are like their hidden superpower according to them. They use it out of nowhere and leave you perplexed. They use these projections as a defense mechanism when they feel they would be exposed or their grandiose image is being questioned or tarnished. </p>
  2522. </div></div>
  2523.  
  2524.  
  2525.  
  2526. <blockquote class="wp-block-quote has-text-align-center has-accent-color has-text-color is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow">
  2527. <p class="has-text-align-center"><em>A narcissist will blame you for so many things that you never said, did, or even thought, and do so with such conviction that you end up questioning every aspect of your identity.</em></p>
  2528. <cite><strong>&#8211; Annie Kaszina</strong></cite></blockquote>
  2529.  
  2530.  
  2531.  
  2532. <p>Narcissists always want their ways to work out and project certain behavior onto others. That projection often includes their thoughts and thinking patterns. Their projection usually includes anger, guilt, blame, hatred, and unhealthy thoughts. </p>
  2533.  
  2534.  
  2535.  
  2536. <p>So to deal with it correctly, firstly it becomes important to understand why narcissists might use this tactic of accusing others of their own traits and tendencies. In general, narcissists are very self-centered and have a hard time accepting criticism. They often use the tactic of blame-shifting to deflect blame onto others. Narcissists always try to turn the table around to avoid taking accountability for their actions. When they accuse someone of having narcissism, they desperately try to project their own tendencies, insecurities, and traits onto others, as a way to rationalize their own behavior. </p>
  2537.  
  2538.  
  2539.  
  2540. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">What is NPD(Narcissistic Personality Disorder)?</h2>
  2541.  
  2542.  
  2543.  
  2544. <p>Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a mental health condition, where the patient has extremely high admiration for themselves, including boosted self-esteem, self-centeredness, high self-worth, boosted ego, and a <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-lack-self-control/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/do-narcissists-lack-self-control/">low tolerance for criticism</a>, emotions, and attachments.</p>
  2545.  
  2546.  
  2547.  
  2548. <p>Characterized by a grandiose sense of self-importance, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy, narcissism is a personality disorder that affects approximately 1% of the population. <strong>Narcissists are often difficult to deal with because they have an inflated sense of self-worth that permeates every aspect of their lives.</strong> They may feel entitled, arrogant, and self-centered, and their behavior can be highly unpredictable, causing chaos and dysfunction in personal and professional relationships. </p>
  2549.  
  2550.  
  2551.  
  2552. <p>Narcissistic Personality Disorder is characterized by a lack of <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/are-narcissists-afraid-of-empaths-if-yes-why/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/are-narcissists-afraid-of-empaths-if-yes-why/">empathy</a> for others, a grandiose sense of self-importance, and an immoderate need for admiration. Narcissists often believe that they are entitled to special treatment, and they tend to exploit others to fulfill their needs. The disorder typically develops in early adulthood and can persist throughout a person&#8217;s life. While <a href="https://nextgenpsychology.com/understanding-narcissistic-personality-disorder/" data-type="URL" data-id="https://nextgenpsychology.com/understanding-narcissistic-personality-disorder/">Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)</a> is notoriously difficult to treat, it is essential to address the disorder as early as possible to prevent those affected from inflicting emotional harm on themselves and others. </p>
  2553.  
  2554.  
  2555.  
  2556. <p>Narcissists possess some traits that make them a little hard to deal with. Some peculiar narcissistic traits include, </p>
  2557.  
  2558.  
  2559.  
  2560. <ul class="wp-block-list">
  2561. <li>Lack of sensitivity and empathy.</li>
  2562.  
  2563.  
  2564.  
  2565. <li>Are self-centric.</li>
  2566.  
  2567.  
  2568.  
  2569. <li>Blame others for your mistakes.</li>
  2570.  
  2571.  
  2572.  
  2573. <li>Have unhealthy relations.</li>
  2574.  
  2575.  
  2576.  
  2577. <li>Arrogance and anger is your first reaction to any problems.</li>
  2578.  
  2579.  
  2580.  
  2581. <li>Hate changes and also cannot take them well.</li>
  2582.  
  2583.  
  2584.  
  2585. <li>Are emotionally unstable and unavailable.</li>
  2586.  
  2587.  
  2588.  
  2589. <li>Takes advantage of others easily.</li>
  2590.  
  2591.  
  2592.  
  2593. <li>Are abusive.</li>
  2594.  
  2595.  
  2596.  
  2597. <li>Lack of self-awareness and self-reflection.</li>
  2598.  
  2599.  
  2600.  
  2601. <li>Always expect more from others.</li>
  2602. </ul>
  2603.  
  2604.  
  2605. <div class="wp-block-image">
  2606. <figure class="aligncenter size-large is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/121-1024x576.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9945" width="257" height="144" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/121-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/121-300x169.jpg 300w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/121-768x432.jpg 768w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/121-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/121.jpg 1600w" sizes="(max-width: 257px) 100vw, 257px" /></figure></div>
  2607.  
  2608.  
  2609. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">What to do when a Narcissist calls you a Narcissist?</h2>
  2610.  
  2611.  
  2612.  
  2613. <p>When a Narcissist calls you a Narcissist, it is infuriating, but there are some ways that may help you deal with the situation in a better way. Those ways are mentioned below,</p>
  2614.  
  2615.  
  2616.  
  2617. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Staying calm and composed </h3>
  2618.  
  2619.  
  2620.  
  2621. <p>Narcissists always wish to provoke a reaction out of you, so refusing to engage in an argument or confrontation can be an effective way to avoid giving them attention. Not engaging in any kind of drama, arguments, discussions or disagreements may subtle down the situation. Responding in a non-emotional and calm way and showing them that their behavior is not going to affect you, may save you from all the drama and trauma. </p>
  2622.  
  2623.  
  2624.  
  2625. <p>Before reacting to anything, take a deep breath and try to calm yourself down. This will give you time to think and respond rather than reacting impulsively. </p>
  2626.  
  2627.  
  2628.  
  2629. <p>Narcissists have a knack for provoking people and drawing them into a defensive argument. Try to stay calm and rational as much as possible. Do not take the bait or get caught in a blame-shifting or <a href="https://psychcentral.com/pro/recovery-expert/2018/06/victim-blaming" data-type="URL" data-id="https://psychcentral.com/pro/recovery-expert/2018/06/victim-blaming" target="_blank" rel="noopener">victim-blaming</a> game. Keep your emotions in control when dealing with a narcissist. It is important to remain calm and composed during the conversations.</p>
  2630.  
  2631.  
  2632.  
  2633. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Reframing the conversation </h3>
  2634.  
  2635.  
  2636.  
  2637. <p>Instead of responding to their accusation in a way that they expect you to, try a different approach in responding to them. Try reframing the complete conversation by asking questions that would shift the focus away from their accusations to a better and more interesting topic for them. </p>
  2638.  
  2639.  
  2640.  
  2641. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Set Boundaries </h3>
  2642.  
  2643.  
  2644.  
  2645. <p>The first and foremost step in dealing with a narcissist who wants a reaction out of you is to set up clear and firm boundaries. This means being clear about what you will and will not tolerate from the narcissist. It is important to communicate these boundaries clearly, both verbally and in writing, and to stick to them consistently. </p>
  2646.  
  2647.  
  2648.  
  2649. <p>The first step is taking your power back by setting boundaries. Narcissists can be demanding and take up a lot of your time and energy. Setting boundaries helps you protect your time, space, and mental health. Setting boundaries means defining what sort of behaviors are acceptable, and what actions are not acceptable, and making it clear what all practices are acceptable and unacceptable. Narcissists tend to cross boundaries frequently. Being firm and assertive about your limits and holding them accountable if they violate them is also one of the best to set boundaries. You can save yourself from the narcissist blaming you to be a narcissist by holding up your guard by making firm boundaries. </p>
  2650.  
  2651.  
  2652.  
  2653. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Seeking Support</h3>
  2654.  
  2655.  
  2656.  
  2657. <p>Dealing with a narcissist who is stuck on blaming others for their mistakes and traits can be emotionally draining. It is important to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist. This can help you to stay grounded and focused, and to maintain a sense of perspective amidst the chaos of their behavior. If the situation is difficult to handle, seek support from someone you trust or a mediator who can help resolve the situation. </p>
  2658.  
  2659.  
  2660. <div class="wp-block-image">
  2661. <figure class="aligncenter size-full is-resized"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" src="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/123.jpg" alt="" class="wp-image-9946" width="187" height="156" srcset="https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/123.jpg 600w, https://nextgenpsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/123-300x250.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 187px) 100vw, 187px" /></figure></div>
  2662.  
  2663.  
  2664. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Seeking an explanation from the Narcissist</h3>
  2665.  
  2666.  
  2667.  
  2668. <p>One can also directly as the narcissist to explain why they think you are narcissistic. This puts the focus back on them and makes them accountable for the accusation. If they are unable to provide specific examples or reasons for their claim, then it is likely they are just simply trying to deflect the blame and distract you from the main topic. </p>
  2669.  
  2670.  
  2671.  
  2672. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Try defending yourself</h3>
  2673.  
  2674.  
  2675.  
  2676. <p>When a narcissist calls you a narcissist, one possible reaction is to defend yourself or retaliate with the name-calling situation. But there are many chances that the retaliation may backfire and give the narcissist ammunition to use against you. Instead, the best approach is to remain calm and act logically. </p>
  2677.  
  2678.  
  2679.  
  2680. <h3 class="wp-block-heading">Try to understand their perspective </h3>
  2681.  
  2682.  
  2683.  
  2684. <p>Narcissists may project their own tendencies onto others, so it is possible that they are labeling you as a narcissist because they see qualities in you that remind them of themselves. You can also use the tactic of active listening or try using empathy. Acknowledging their concerns and asking them what they would like to see a change in your behavior. This can help them feel heard and validated, and may even defuse the situation themselves without you doing much altogether. </p>
  2685.  
  2686.  
  2687.  
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  2690. </div></figure>
  2691.  
  2692.  
  2693.  
  2694. <h2 class="wp-block-heading">Inference</h2>
  2695.  
  2696.  
  2697.  
  2698. <p>When a narcissist calls you a narcissist, it is important to stay calm and rational. Ask them to explain their reasoning, use empathy and active listening, and stand strong on your arguments. By doing so you can avoid getting dragged any further into the situation or their manipulative game of blame-shifting. This way you can maintain your sense of self-worth and avoid the accusations.</p>
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